A disturbing PM I just received that needs to be openly discussed

[TrueFaith77]

Originally Posted by mylittledemon

Proper etiquette would've been to not post the contents of the private msg. I'm not accusing you of the following, but case in point... the "content" of DavidMN's message which you posted above could've been written by you or anyone else for that matter.

A more appropriate solution to this issue would've been to deal with DavidMN directly or bring it to the attention of one, or all of the moderators.

I do however appreciate your need to publicly apologize to him.

I fwd'd the content to a moderator. Is there a way for a moderator or the owner of the site to verify that that is indeed the original content?

Worse comes to worst, I will hand out my password for all to see the message and then leave The Ledge forever. But thank you for revealing yet another layer of doubt and rumour that the backstabber has permitted to take place.

I would agree with all of your other suggestions if the note had not been threatening. I consider it a threat.

Moderators can determine if my or David's actions are appropriate, and I submit to their best judgement.

What moderators can't do is find out who in the midst of the Crew is causing trouble. The Ledge, however, is why we met, so the Ledge is where I hope it can be settled.

[fumidesigns]

Had to come back for a second. MLD, are you a moderator? This is a serious question.

[Silver Springs]

Originally Posted by fumidesigns

Had to come back for a second. MLD, are you a moderator? This is a serious question.

Doesn't look as though he's online, but Moderator is underneath his username in his tags. I can't remember when he became a mod but I don't think it's been long. Maybe a few months.

[HomerMcvie]

Originally Posted by Christopher

Yes, we all put ourselves out there for potential scrutiny when we meet in the real world.

I've only met 3 Ledgies, one time. And had the best time ever. Ledgies who drink together, get along very well...

[HomerMcvie]

Originally Posted by Silver Springs

Doesn't look as though he's online, but Moderator is underneath his username in his tags. I can't remember when he became a mod but I don't think it's been long. Maybe a few months.

I think the mods remove their online status, so they can watch the plundering and pillaging, undetected. Yeah, he's been a mod for a few months now. He does a good job, too.(asskiss mode off now )

[fumidesigns]

Ok.....after this post, I will not be back, either for a few months or forever......haven't decided yet.

What I don't understand is this:

How can you tell someone what's proper in the midst of doing the wrong thing???!!!! If what TrueFaith did was wrong, y not PM him, as a moderator, and explain to him what you don't want on these boards? Instead of using "proper etiquette" MyLittleDemon, you did exactly what he did by airing your views on the board. Interesting...... Y not lead by example? Everyone wants to preach, but no one wants to bow before God.

If this post gets me banned, then so be it. I will say what's on my mind, especially when I think someone is hurting, or wronging, someone I know! If any moderator, or fellow ledgie, would like to voice their opinion on this post, please feel free to use other social media.

Xoxo & twirls,

MiMi

[HomerMcvie]

Originally Posted by fumidesigns

Ok.....after this post, I will not be back, either for a few months or forever......haven't decided yet.


MiMi

I have taken this action, several times on the Ledge. Sometimes it's......just TIME for it. I took a few months off, and only recently returned(after receiving some joyous news).
Take some time away, and let this place just sit on the back burner for awhile. Then you'll feel like coming back.

[mylittledemon]

Doing the wrong thing? I beg pardon. I didn't post the contents of a PM for everyone to see. I don't think you have any ground to stand on for the comment you just made.

These types of guidelines are made clear in the FAQ... I'm just re-stating them. If TrueFaith wants to discuss this matter publicly, there's a public response to be made to some degree. I didn't reprimand the user or take any action that needed to be "hidden" from the rest of you.

Originally Posted by fumidesigns

Ok.....after this post, I will not be back, either for a few months or forever......haven't decided yet.

What I don't understand is this:

How can you tell someone what's proper in the midst of doing the wrong thing???!!!! If what TrueFaith did was wrong, y not PM him, as a moderator, and explain to him what you don't want on these boards? Instead of using "proper etiquette" MyLittleDemon, you did exactly what he did by airing your views on the board. Interesting...... Y not lead by example? Everyone wants to preach, but no one wants to bow before God.

If this post gets me banned, then so be it. I will say what's on my mind, especially when I think someone is hurting, or wronging, someone I know! If any moderator, or fellow ledgie, would like to voice their opinion on this post, please feel free to use other social media.

Xoxo & twirls,

MiMi

[mylittledemon]

Originally Posted by HomerMcvie

I think the mods remove their online status, so they can watch the plundering and pillaging, undetected. Yeah, he's been a mod for a few months now. He does a good job, too.(asskiss mode off now )

Actually I don't even know how to do that... you guys can always see me when I'm online

[jannieC]

The best advise here is to ask you to please utilize the block option for PMs. No one deserves to be abused in any forum and if you feel that this is a problem, please let us know. Though moderators do not usually get involved in PM issues, it is noted that some abuse this feature.

There really isn't any reason to keep this discussion going.