Debate of Age Differences in A Relationship

[camchristo]

Originally Posted by daniellaaarisen

You know the sad thing? I totally knew that. I've talked to Alex before on Facebook. I'm STILL sleep deprived after my trip...

I must have been on your mind, right?

[SuzeQuze]

Originally Posted by HomerMcvie

Good luck with it.

For me, it took 9 months of zero contact, until I got an email last Thanksgiving, telling me that I'd been treated like sh*t, and deserved better, and that I was "the real deal". And we've moved slowly since then, gradually building a solid foundation.

I find it strange, that it took 9 months of separation, for the age issue to fall away. Nine months that were totally worth it!

Yeah that didn't work out so well, I texted him on Monday and we hung out. Woops.

[LikeAWillow]

I tend to be with the life stages camp on this one. Of course there are exceptions, but for the most part, a college student isn't in the right place to have a real relationship with someone who's spent a good deal of time in the "real world," just like a high school junior probably isn't in the right place to have a relationship with a college junior. I give a lot of credit to individual maturity levels, but life experience has to have a role, too.

But I'm a little bit of a hypocrite because I've been sitting on a 37 year old's number for two weeks now, and usually I delete anyone I don't intend to actually call within a day or two of meeting them. So eh

[vivfox]

Originally Posted by LikeAWillow

I've been sitting on a 37 year old's number for two weeks now

It sounds like a bone of contention. I wouldn't mind having that problem.

[HomerMcvie]

Originally Posted by SuzeQuze

Yeah that didn't work out so well, I texted him on Monday and we hung out. Woops.

I guess I'm curious, as to the definition of "hung out"...

Some things are hard to let go.

Mine's been away at a conference at Notre Dame all weekend. 5 more hours to go!

[SuzeQuze]

Originally Posted by HomerMcvie

I guess I'm curious, as to the definition of "hung out"...

Some things are hard to let go.

Mine's been away at a conference at Notre Dame all weekend. 5 more hours to go!

Thanks for that, it's true. We literally hung out on Mon at a club with another friend and watch the Bruins and the band. It was fun and then we had a date the next night at his place. I made us brownies and we had those hot with Ben and Jerry's half baked ice cream. But that wasn't the most decadent thing we had!

[skcin]

Originally Posted by LikeAWillow

I tend to be with the life stages camp on this one. Of course there are exceptions, but for the most part, a college student isn't in the right place to have a real relationship with someone who's spent a good deal of time in the "real world," just like a high school junior probably isn't in the right place to have a relationship with a college junior. I give a lot of credit to individual maturity levels, but life experience has to have a role, too.

Well said. I do feel that after age 25 or so (give or take a few years) you're pretty well developed psychologically, emotionally, intellectually, etc. At that point, go ahead & date an 80 year old if you want. Not YOU, Marissa. I mean, unless you want to.

[sasja]

My husband is 13 years my junior. We met when he was 23 and I was 36 and he pursued me relentlessly despite all my worries and objections and hesitations.

This year will mark our tenth wedding anniversary. Best caving in I ever did

[skcin]

Originally Posted by sasja

My husband is 13 years my junior. We met when he was 23 and I was 36 and he pursued me relentlessly despite all my worries and objections and hesitations.

This year will mark our tenth wedding anniversary. Best caving in I ever did

Congrats on your successful relationship!