TMI thread. Discussion of sensitive ADULT issues/triggers. Enter with awareness!

[louielouie2000]

Originally Posted by Nikolaj

Louie, I know it's none of my business, so ignore if you want to: I suspect you might be talking about a stepfather? Many people consider their steps their actual fathers, especially if they were parented by them from a young age.
I ask this, because you once wrote your dad was murdered when you were about 8 years old and that he was a cocaine addict killed over a drug deal. I can only imagine how such a thing would impact a small child, and I am so sorry for your pain and congratulate you for being the fun-loving, happy man that you seem to be.
The man you described above sounds like a focused, career-driven man who provided brilliantly for his family, and he doesn't seem the type, at all, to lose it all to cocaine. Yet, it happens.
I'm hoping for you that the workaholic you described above was the main father figure for your childhood, and not the other man.

Yes, that was my Stepfather who I was talking about . My coke-addled biological Father was totally out of the picture after the age of 4, so I consider my Stepfather to be my Father... he's raised me since I was 3. And my Stepfather is a very, very good man. He provided for our family extremely well, and is a very kind man who raised me as his own. He definitely regrets now being such a workaholic, and simply stopped being that way several years back when he realized the means weren't worth the ends.