Gay dating

[DavidMn]

Ok, it seems that I recieved a PM yesterday from someone here that felt it neccesary to make disparaging remarks about me. I wont name the person here because that's not my style but you know who you are because you obviously read this thread. The person wrote and I quote "Honey, no one wants to date Jonah the whale. And besides you're not even good looking. Oh and if you think I'm the only one that feels this way, you're wrong because I've recieved Pm's from SEVERAL other people saying the same thing." Ok fine I can accept that. I know i'm overweight and I'm not exactly what you'd call hot, but I would NEVER even fathom of treating another member here the way this person treated me. In case you didn't know Mr. smart ass, my weight issues are tied to my depression which has been made worse since my mother nearly died last year. I have been working on it, but I have a long way to go I know. I have done nothing but try to be a friend to everyone here and be as friendly as possible and it really hurts that there are people here talking behind my back like this because like I said I would never do that to someone else. The only reason I started this thread is because I genuinely wanted advice on how I could meet someone and have a boyfriend, not to be insulted and backstabbed. I'm just totally disgusted with this board right now and quite honestly I dont want to come somewhere where people dont like me and I dont even know who they are.

[jannieC]

David, ignore mean-spirited people. When you open yourself up and share personal feelings in a public forum, you are sure to attract people who enjoy hurting other people's feelings. I don't understand that mentality, but it does exist, of course. Take care and carry on!

[louielouie2000]

Originally Posted by jannieC

David, ignore mean-spirited people. When you open yourself up and share personal feelings in a public forum, you are sure to attract people who enjoy hurting other people's feelings. I don't understand that mentality, but it does exist, of course. Take care and carry on!

Exactly. Anybody who says things like that to another person is simply trying to distract others from their own shortcomings. Don't give them what they want by quitting posting around here. I would say that the majority of Ledgies truly enjoy reading about your exploits of following the band around. It'd be a shame to lose your voice around here.

[WarmSir3]

It hurts me to see others being put down like this in a public forum! Take jannieC's advice. I know it's not exactly easy to just ignore what other people say, but at the end of the day take comfort in knowing they can't exactly enjoy being surrounded with such negativity. You on the other hand are a great person with a great life. Feel pity on these people and move on. More than likely the "other people" that were mentioned don't exist! Don't worry be happy!

[Sanne2]

Wow that's just horrible! I hope you reported that person, his/her ass should be bannend from here!
Unfortunately, there are some truly rotten apples on this board, it wouldn't be the first time that I've encountered them. You should not leave because of them, they're not worth it.
You're one of the most interesting, entertaining and honest members here, don't let them chase you away.

Also, If I were you I would totally quote the PM here and post the members name, f*#k that ****!
But that's just me.

[Dodfather]

David, I' sure I speak for all Ledgies (other than the truly pathetic asshole who sent you this PM) when I say that I am truly sorry this happened to you. As others have already said, there are such horrible people everywhere and sadly we all encounter tham every now and again.

Don't let them drag you down.

I really enjoy reading all of your posts on this board and I'm sure most other people do too. This is Fleetwood Mac board after all and most of us would love to have seen them as often as you and be able to travel to do so!

As for the vile comments regarding your appearance, please don't take them toi heart. That's very easy for me to say but as you've said before, you're making great strides in terms of your weight (not that that would make you any better or worse a person if you didn't of course!) but the fact that you are being so proactive in this and your other life choices is most probably what has pissed off the person who PM'd you in the first place. Envy is a very ugly thing!

Keep going and stay on the board! You're a great Ledgie, and a great guy!

[HomerMcvie]

Originally Posted by Dodfather

That's very easy for me to say but as you've said before, you're making great strides in terms of your weight (not that that would make you any better or worse a person if you didn't of course!)

Yes David, you are making great strides. Keep it up. I did it recently, and you can too! I went from 215, three years ago, down to 155 now. I'm wearing 29 and 30" jeans. I've not worn anything that small, since probably 4th grade!!
But again, you CAN do it. Believing in yourself, is the biggest step. I did it, knowing that I needed to make some big changes in my life, and losing weight(for me, it REALLY helps my self-esteem, when I lose some weight) was crucial, for me to get the changes moving. I got called "scrawny", last night! To me, that was the ultimate compliment, of my entire life! (yeah, I know, there are many other compliments, that would be better....but I've been battling weight for so long, that "scrawny" felt like victory!).
I'm dating constantly now, and I'm the best person I've ever been!

Believe in YOU, David

[LukeA]

Wow. What an asshole. Way to be a walking- no, prancing stereotype, catty & superficial gay boi.

David, I'm sorry you had to receive that PM. When I first read your post, I found most of what you said could also be felt & experienced by straight men/women- the same universal feelings of frustration we all feel in the dating world. I now realize that while straight men/women can certainly be brutally piggish/superficial, I doubt many (if any) would actually have the fortitude or lack the decency to do to you what this person did. Its unfortunate that there's a certain segment of gay culture/community that thinks that going this far out of their way to be hurtful (ie. "fierce") is a personality trait they'd choose to identify themselves with.

[fringed n fab]

Originally Posted by LukeA

Wow. What an asshole. Way to be a walking- no, prancing stereotype, catty & superficial gay boi.

David, I'm sorry you had to receive that PM. When I first read your post, I found most of what you said could also be felt & experienced by straight men/women- the same universal feelings of frustration we all feel in the dating world. I now realize that while straight men/women can certainly be brutally piggish/superficial, I doubt many (if any) would actually have the fortitude or lack the decency to do to you what this person did. Its unfortunate that there's a certain segment of gay culture/community that thinks that going this far out of their way to be hurtful (ie. "fierce") is a personality trait they'd choose to identify themselves with.

I think most people whether straight or gay, would never be outright mean like this. I would like to think this was a fun board where we can discuss fun things whether it's FM or SN ( or Brandon ) or things going on in our daily lives. I would just ignore rude people and try and have fun on here with ones that matter.

[HomerMcvie]

David, ignore that PIG of a human being! I had a similar situation, last night.

I have a friend, and she's rather large, and she got dumped yesterday. Well, I was sitting at a bar, consoling her. And this other girl I've been home with, a few times, came up, pulled me aside, and said, "I can't believe you'd rather be with her, than me". I said, "she's my friend, and we're just talking about her problems". This went on, for about 30 minutes(making gestures behind her back, about how large she is). She finally came up and said it to me again. I told her to get the FUKC away from me, and told her that I pick friends, over sex, any day of the week. Damn I was pissed. I came home, deleted her from Yahoo IM, and blocked her from my Facebook and Myspace. I'll never talk to her again.

Beauty's on the inside, David. I have no use for those SHALLOW pieces of ****, that go around passing judgement on people like that.

[MoonWaterPoet]

Originally Posted by DavidMn

Ok, it seems that I recieved a PM yesterday from someone here that felt it neccesary to make disparaging remarks about me. I wont name the person here because that's not my style but you know who you are because you obviously read this thread. The person wrote and I quote "Honey, no one wants to date Jonah the whale. And besides you're not even good looking. Oh and if you think I'm the only one that feels this way, you're wrong because I've recieved Pm's from SEVERAL other people saying the same thing." Ok fine I can accept that. I know i'm overweight and I'm not exactly what you'd call hot, but I would NEVER even fathom of treating another member here the way this person treated me. In case you didn't know Mr. smart ass, my weight issues are tied to my depression which has been made worse since my mother nearly died last year. I have been working on it, but I have a long way to go I know. I have done nothing but try to be a friend to everyone here and be as friendly as possible and it really hurts that there are people here talking behind my back like this because like I said I would never do that to someone else. The only reason I started this thread is because I genuinely wanted advice on how I could meet someone and have a boyfriend, not to be insulted and backstabbed. I'm just totally disgusted with this board right now and quite honestly I dont want to come somewhere where people dont like me and I dont even know who they are.

David ~ I am so sorry you had to endure any kind of backlash like this from your post... People who bully other people like this, is truely insecure with their ownselves... and just ignore them. I know it's hard to... I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve on these message boards, only to have some mean people to pounce on me... Some people forget that We are All Human Beings with true Life feelings, though they think they can be mean to one another... But we are real people behind these email addresses and screen names... And we all have feelings... So don't pay any attention to these bashers... Karma is a Bitch...

xoxoxox to You... ;-)


Donnie Wayne ~

[MoonWaterPoet]

Originally Posted by MoonWaterPoet

David ~ I am so sorry you had to endure any kind of backlash like this from your post... People who bully other people like this, is truely insecure with their ownselves... and just ignore them. I know it's hard to... I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve on these message boards, only to have some mean people to pounce on me... Some people forget that We are All Human Beings with true Life feelings, though they think they can be mean to one another... But we are real people behind these email addresses and screen names... And we all have feelings... So don't pay any attention to these bashers... Karma is a Bitch...

xoxoxox to You... ;-)


Donnie Wayne ~

I also meant to add... that... "There is An Ass, for Every Chair that is Made" ~... Send that response to the one who made the bad remarks... J/K...


Donnie Wayne ~

[mylittledemon]

Originally Posted by DavidMn

Ok, it seems that I recieved a PM yesterday from someone here that felt it neccesary to make disparaging remarks about me.

Btw, why didn't you forward this PM to a mod? Regardless of the fact that it was sent in private, it's still not cool.