So why didn't you have a date tonight?

[Dodfather]

Originally Posted by daniellaaarisen

I have a big reason or two why my luck with relationships sucks, but I don't think they root from the turnoffs you listed. Not that the list isn't accurate... I'm just not good at the "settle down and stop messing with his head for fun" thing. I like to play with my food before I eat it and although I am unnaturally good at keeping a guy's interest because of it, it never goes to "the next level".

Bleh.

Hi Dani,

While of course I don't agree with what you've out here if you are deliberately messing with a guys head, you really shouldn't be so hard on yourself! You're 17 right? I really don't mean this to be patronising and apologies if this is how it comes across but who says you should be settling down or going to any level other than just having fun? If you want to settle down then go for it butif not then don't feel too guilty aboutit.

I know you say you date older men but surely if he's a good guy he will appreciate you for who you are and everything that goes along with that, including an age difference. They shouldn't be expecting you to move to the next level (I'm not saying they will be of course).

Having been in relationships with both older and younger women, it's all too easy to put too much pressure on yourself as regards how you think you "should" be acting. This never ends well because you always end up feeling uncomfortable.

I'm really sorry if I've assumed too much and spoken out of turn but I just found your post interesting, having been there and seen it from both sides (being the younger and older one in the relationship) and from the guys point of view!

Al.