"So then I go..."/"Just saying"

[amber]

Originally Posted by xdreamsunwindx

Why is Amber gutsy for saying that? If she said that to a WHITE man, would you think the same way?

No offense, Amber, I just found that might interesting...

Oh, no, yeah, I just didn't see where Irshc..grl ever mentioned white or black stuff. I did, but that was me.

Also, no white person has ever said anything like that to me.

I had assumed she thought I was gutsy what with saying stuff to people in neighborhoods less than country goodness, like hers, in places that were almost, if not actually, cities. Seriously, if you'd been where she lived, Cricket sounds would be high traffic. I been there, it's awesome. So much quiet and plants and animals. So little cement.
And I assumed by "some neighborhoods" she meant "bad neighborhoods", which, if this neighborhood were in her town it would be bad, however in mine, it's middle/lower/upper/ middle class.

Originally Posted by XDUX

Well, see, when you say something like "especially in SOME neighborhoods," a lot of people might take that the wrong way, as in thinking you're stereotyping black women, eg; Italian women don't have the monopoly on bigger butts. And from there, I thought you were implying that Amber is gutsy for living in an ethnic neighborhood.

I just thought that was interesting, that's all...

"A lot" of people might not be the actual people we are, and I may not have meant what you would think those theoretical people thought I meant by what I said.

Well, in some places, bad neighborhoods are different races. In my home town, bad neighborhoods are white trash.
My point is, you can only extrapolate out to a certain point beyond what someone actually says.
After that point, you are just making stuff up, yeah? Like, no one ever said anything about black women, or what "bad" neighborhoods consist of, or who has bigger butts.

And I didn't really recall anyone "implying" anything, unless, of course, their thoughts took you in a particular direction of implying things, in which case, then you made that up.

Like, I never thought of black women, or big butts, or if I did, I certainly didn't see anyone else saying anything of the sort.

And so therefore, it seems to me that you kinda over-infered things about things that people said. Like, you made up extra stuff that was never in the words people wrote.

I'm just trying to say, maybe there isn't so much offense involved with everything, maybe there are just perspectives and objectives and points of view and egos and blindness.
Perhaps.
And also perhaps low comprehensive reading scores. Perhaps.