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[golddustwoman77]

Originally Posted by DeeGeMe

I'm from the South--we're serial huggers down here (do you suppose that's what got Bill Clinton in trouble?). Anyway, at least my Mom's family are all huggers. We hug each other hello & goodbye. Grown men hug one another when they see each other in my family with no shame or even consciousness about it. It's just the way we are. Although my longtime SO's family was also from the South--they weren't affectionate with one another in any way, shape, or form. So maybe it's not a Southern thing at all, but just a "my family" thing.

I live in the South too. I think you may be right. Everyone I know, friends and family, hug each other hello and goodbye. We don't hug people we barely know, but friends and family definitely hug. It may be a southern hospitality thing.

[GateandGarden]

Originally Posted by golddustwoman77

I live in the South too. I think you may be right. Everyone I know, friends and family, hug each other hello and goodbye. We don't hug people we barely know, but friends and family definitely hug. It may be a southern hospitality thing.

Same here! I swear it is a Southern thing, though I know there are exceptions. I'm really loath to hug people I don't know; I usually have to know someone pretty well and for decent amount of time before I do it, but after that I am very huggy. Some people are more affectionate than I am around here. I remember one time I met a girl on the first day of a class we had together and we talked about what other classes we were taking for about three minutes, and then she hugged me. I was pretty shocked about that, since I had known her for three minutes!

I liked the cartoon you posted, Amber. I wish the U.S. was much more open about being affectionate. I have a professor who's from Congo, and she said she used to hold hands with her friends all the time when they were walking down the street together, and when she came to the U.S. and did that with her female friends, she was very surprised when people started saying she was a lesbian!

Anyway, I really enjoy reading all of y'all's responses to this.

Hillary

[madformac]

I think it's, to a degree anyway, a socialogical thing. The French seem to hug and kiss each other all the time, yet us "Brits" are very reserved.. Sure if I know somebody well, at least a female I'll give a little hug maybe, if it's a guy a handshake will be enough for me.

Anybody I don't know well gets a smile and the regulation hello, maybe a handshake if I'm feeling generous

The states seems to have different reactions all over, The good old New York greeting of "what do you want?" springs to mind..

[amber]

Originally Posted by GateandGarden

. I remember one time I met a girl on the first day of a class we had together and we talked about what other classes we were taking for about three minutes, and then she hugged me. I was pretty shocked about that, since I had known her for three minutes!

I liked the cartoon you posted, Amber. I wish the U.S. was much more open about being affectionate. I have a professor who's from Congo, and she said she used to hold hands with her friends all the time when they were walking down the street together, and when she came to the U.S. and did that with her female friends, she was very surprised when people started saying she was a lesbian!

Anyway, I really enjoy reading all of y'all's responses to this.

Hillary

That huggy girl is like my friend.
I guess i wish the us was more open, but then i'd have to hug and kiss everyone... but i guess that would seem normal to me, if everyone always did it.
by the way, that book is one of the top 5 funniest books i've ever read. ever. If anyone wants it, it's called "Dogberts Clues for the Clueless" it is ostensibly all about manners, but is fricking hilarious.

[madformac]

The people that disturb me are not the ones that hug you indiscriminately on your first meeting but the ones that invade your personal "bubble" when you speak to them for the first time. They come too close, you move back and they follow you.... You move back again and they come too close again, it's like some odd game where they follow you about as you walk backwards..

And is it me or are they always the ones with bad breath that do this?

[amber]

Originally Posted by madformac

The people that disturb me are not the ones that hug you indiscriminately on your first meeting but the ones that invade your personal "bubble" when you speak to them for the first time. They come too close, you move back and they follow you.... You move back again and they come too close again, it's like some odd game where they follow you about as you walk backwards..

And is it me or are they always the ones with bad breath that do this?

that's why it's CALLED the bad breath zone, dude!

[madformac]

Originally Posted by amber

that's why it's CALLED the bad breath zone, dude!

Yeah...

And there's no item on the market to deal with it....

Now there's a product just waiting to be invented, a bad breath detector. Kinda like a smoke alarm. It should vibrate or something to warn of incoming attacks...

Then again if just one of us was honest enough to just tell them about it, there wouldn't be bad breath zones...

[amber]

Originally Posted by madformac

Yeah...

And there's no item on the market to deal with it....

Now there's a product just waiting to be invented, a bad breath detector. Kinda like a smoke alarm. It should vibrate or something to warn of incoming attacks...

Then again if just one of us was honest enough to just tell them about it, there wouldn't be bad breath zones...

Ah, Madformac, my book has an answer for you, too!

[wondergirl9847]

Seteca (and you) will appreciate this...

Close talker.



Yeah, I used to work with a lady from India, and when she'd talk to you, she'd be RIGHTHERE. LOL I agree, it's a socialogical thing.

Southerners are usually laid back and friendly, hence, the affection...I guess.