cheesy subject
 

Well..
 

I'm from the South--we're serial huggers down here (do you suppose that's what got Bill Clinton in trouble?). Anyway, at least my Mom's family are all huggers. We hug each other hello & goodbye. Grown men hug one another when they see each other in my family with no shame or even consciousness about it. It's just the way we are. Although my longtime SO's family was also from the South--they weren't affectionate with one another in any way, shape, or form. So maybe it's not a Southern thing at all, but just a "my family" thing.

I am not a huggy kissy type myself. :shrug: I really don't like it that much. However now this is going to sound weird but I have given hugs (if you could call it that) in receiving lines at wakes. If it is someone that I know that has lost someone close I usally put my arms around them as I say "I'm Sorry".

I didn't mean to be so morbid. :distress:

I dont mind...
 

giving hugs, But everyone is just too damn short...So I end up using 'em as arm-rests :lol:

Neither Deb nor myself are touchy/feely folk...

Brian j.

I'm a hugger and a kisser. When I greet someone, it's always a hug and a peck on the cheek (or a quick lip kiss). I don't do this to everyone, just my inner circle of friends and people I meet at the bar. :xoxo:

cheesy indeed..
 

I'm not really touchy feely myself... Guess it goes back to a childhood without much attention from my parents. They both worked all the time and although my mother was quite "huggy", my father really didn't show any positive emotions towards me so I guess it's rubbed off on me. Doesn't help being an only child too I guess (I'm trying for the sympathy vote here! :laugh: ).

Having said that as I get older I'm starting to get a little soft and I'm giving in to the occasional hugs 'n' stuff at the right times. ;) :laugh:

sometimes i just don't feel like it when my friend does. But sometimes i'm very huggy. however, i don't really like when men i just met - or sometimes women - get all huggy. Like a third person you get introduced to through a friend? And maybe your friend is huggy, but you're not, so this new person thinks they get a hug from you even though you just met? But that is also based on a vibe thing. However, in the past few years i've gotten much more huggy (used to be shocked and dismayed by hugs :) ) but it's funny, now when i visit my best girlfriend from a long time, and give her a hug, it's kind of weird for her. She's not really huggy, either, although she is nice. And my best girlfriend in town hugs everyone. Everytime i see her she's trying to get some from me. :laugh:
I guess i'm a "moody" hugger. :p

I'm quite the opposite...
 

cause my Mom loved to play with us boys, Especially pinning us to the floor and tickling us until we pissed ourselves...Til this day I HATE being tickled :nod:

My late Father worked so I dont have many memories about him since I was only 7 yrs.old when he passed away...I do remember he gave us hugs/kisses.

Brian "Parents-Can't live with 'em...Can't shoot 'em" j.

Sounds cool Brian, I do have vague memories of my late father giving me a "firemans lift" and carrying me upside down when I was 6 or 7. Thats about it.

Hey, in some states I bet there's gotta be some asshole that would take their parents to court for child abuse if they got tickled as kids... Wouldn't surprise me one bit.. I bet those people could do with a REALLY big hug! :laugh: :laugh:

They either need a...
 

big hug or a high colonic!!!! :laugh:

Brian j.

I'm a huggy person, but not a kissy one. If you hate hugs and affection, don't let the door hit you on the ass on your way out. ;)

:laugh: What if you just met the person, or you don't like them much yet? Is yours some kind of "house of indiscriminate hugs"? :laugh:

I'd never hug a person I had just met or didn't know. For all I know, they were hug-deprived as a child and will flip out. :laugh: Only people I know. If I didn't like someone, I wouldn't hang around them (or let them hang around) long enough.

yeah, really. I'm always randomly meeting these friends of this one friend of mine, cause she is apparently friends with the whole town of Oakland and Berkeley. Anyway, there's been a few awkward moments. :laugh: I'm like "nice to meet you" and stick out my hand as they dive for their hug :rolleyes: :laugh: then they act like i'm really weird and totally insulted them :laugh: then i have to go..."well, i just met you". Anyway, I've had to perfect a bit of a distant stand and air during the whole "wall of hugs" moment that inevitably ensues...sheesh! :rolleyes: But i'd rather give a sincere hug, or no hug at all, dammit!! :laugh:
Amber "witholding affection till you prove yourself" G.