Childfree

[CastleWalls]

Originally Posted by skcin

I am a firm believer that not everyone is meant to have kids. I sure as hell wasn't sure I wanted any (used to say never, but...) Took my husband & I 15 years of togetherness, and being in our mid-30's to decide to have one. She's pretty great, and I know we're very lucky (easy sleeper, well-behaved, good looking like her daddy, healthy, etc.).

I can tell you that there is NO WAY I would have been a good mother 10 years ago - less maturity, less patience, different priorities. Soooo glad we waited. So if you aren't sure, DON'T DO IT. Seriously. You'll be miserable. And DON'T have one just because you think you'll be too old soon!

1 more thing. "I want to have a baby" is not the same thing as "I want to have a child & raise him/her to be a responsible, good & decent person who can help shape our future." Cuz you're in it for the looooooooong haul. So you'd better be goddamn ready to work hard at raising a child every day for the next 18+ years.

I am stunned. I never saw you having a kid. LOL. I am floored.