cheesy subject

[GateandGarden]

The cheesy subject is hugging...and why some people just can't get into it. I thought of this when we were talking about people who don't like taking pictures. Some of the same people I know who hate taking pictures are also extremely shy about hugging. I've never been able to understand this. People always tell me, "Well, Hillary, some people weren't raised in a really affectionate household, so they don't do that so freely like you do," and that makes sense to me to a degree. I can see why that would make someone shy for awhile, but once they see that their friends are into it, why can't they become accustomed to it as well? I don't mean to be insensitive about it; it's just hard for me to see how people can't get past that after they've been around hugging people (like me) for a few years or so. I have a friend who, to this day, acts shocked when I hug her, like she never saw it coming and can't believe that I would be hugging her. I keep waiting for the day when she gets used to it. Can anyone offer some new insight for me as to why some people have such a hard time with affectionate people? Is there anyone out there like the friend I mentioned who can explain her to me?

Hillary