TMI thread. Discussion of sensitive ADULT issues/triggers. Enter with awareness! - Page 84

**mylittledemon** · #**1246** 03-30-2011, 03:50 PM

haha, no I grew up in the South.

But no, I agree... there are d*cks everywhere - it's just a generalization that Southerners have. And there are certainly southerners that are not mannerly and not friendly and should be ashamed to call em-selves suth-urn.

skcin · #**1247** 03-30-2011, 03:54 PM

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Originally Posted by HejiraNYC

Oh, I would remember something like that. I haven't.

Dude, you have. I think you were at an event - a parade or something? Seriously, it was you with another person or group of people. I had no idea you were an Asian male until I saw it. Maybe another board?

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Originally Posted by CreepingDeath

Same.

Dude, I swear I've seen you too. Wasn't your hair blond & curly a few years back?

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Originally Posted by camchristo

Hmmm. I recall seeing a picture of you before and I've never met you nor had any contact with you. I don't know where else I would have seen it.

SEE?!?! I'm not crazy!

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Originally Posted by HejiraNYC

Well... how do you know she means n***** and not negro (which, although antiquated, I do not believe is considered to be a pejorative)? I had no idea that people, well, make that white people still used terminology like that. I don't think education, class or age is any excuse. Somebody should sit her down and give her a talking-to.

In my experience it's mostly older people (although I'm a Yankee.

) Mostly not meant to be derogatory - that's just the term(s) they knew growing up. Still offensive.

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Originally Posted by HomerMcvie

She'd never speak to us again! She's that sensitive! We can't even tell her that it's OPRAH, not "Offrah". That's right...she watches Offrah.
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HA!

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Originally Posted by HomerMcvie

From what I see of your un-shadowed picture, you're not ugly.

I don't think I'm anything to look at, but ya know what? It's all I've got, and life is short. And I don't plan on wasting another minute of my life....

Loving yourself, is the first step. Because once you do, most of the world will love you, too. And the ones who don't, are a waste of your time and energy, anyway!

That's not actually a pic of Ed. I don't think.

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Originally Posted by mylittledemon

haha as Jerry Seinfeld said... "How can it be racist, if I like their race?"

I've never heard anyone say "Orientals" in a derogatory way but I do suppose it's mostly older people that say it. I still hear "Japs" occasionally and I find it more humorous than anything, but of course I would never say it. It's a little too close to that line for me.

Lol! That's funny because generalization because in the south, northerners are viewed as having less manners & being less friendly.

Yes, but maybe we're more PC.

Saying someone is Oriental isn't really derogatory, it's just incorrect. There's not "Orient" anymore - it's called ASIA. Objects should be called Oriental; people should not.

LikeAWillow · #**1248** 03-30-2011, 03:55 PM

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Originally Posted by cristochango

Being from the north, whenever I hear any of this get brought up I am completely awestruck. I feel like most of us up here are very politically correct, and tolerant of most. (You have the one or two exceptions, but every place does for that part.)

We grew up five minutes away from each other, and I just have to chime in that I think our "tolerance" is not necessarily a good thing. When you teach a child to be tolerant of someone else, you're teaching that child that someone's race and sexuality are something that you have to accept. The wording makes it seem like their differences are a problem, but like the good little white people we are, it's a problem we can pride ourselves on overcoming. I will be such a happy woman when we stop being satisfied with being tolerant and aim towards acting like decent human beings to other decent human beings.

**mylittledemon** · #**1249** 03-30-2011, 04:00 PM

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Originally Posted by skcin

Yes, but maybe we're more PC.

Saying someone is Oriental isn't really derogatory, it's just incorrect. There's not "Orient" anymore - it's called ASIA. Objects should be called Oriental; people should not.

yeah thats why I was making the point to show the "general" differences... haha... which would you rather have? More PC-ness equals less friendly? A bit silly really.

I remember when we moved from Texas to Tennessee in 1992... the kids in TN thought we were from "New Yaw-rk" because of the way we spoke. We had moved around so much as kids that, our accents were really muddled. I remember find that really funny even as a teen... that coming from Texas (such a country state) and moving to the other most well known country state and getting accused of being new yorkers. *shakes head*

cristochango · #**1250** 03-30-2011, 04:01 PM

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Originally Posted by LikeAWillow

We grew up five minutes away from each other, and I just have to chime in that I think our "tolerance" is not necessarily a good thing. When you teach a child to be tolerant of someone else, you're teaching that child that someone's race and sexuality are something that you have to accept. The wording makes it seem like their differences are a problem, but like the good little white people we are, it's a problem we can pride ourselves on overcoming. I will be such a happy woman when we stop being satisfied with being tolerant and aim towards acting like decent human beings to other decent human beings.

I completely agree with this.
If I could go back and edit "tolerant" with "accepting / embracing" I would.

CreepingDeath · #**1251** 03-30-2011, 04:03 PM

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Originally Posted by skcin

Dude, I swear I've seen you too. Wasn't your hair blond & curly a few years back?

My hair as been blond in the past, but never curly. And I swear on all that is holy (Stevie) I have never posted a picture of myself online. Not just the Ledge, but any message board.

Maybe you saw me at a concert. I would have been high school age, though...

cristochango · #**1252** 03-30-2011, 04:03 PM

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Originally Posted by mylittledemon

yeah thats why I was making the point to show the "general" differences... haha... which would you rather have? More PC-ness equals less friendly? A bit silly really.

I remember when we moved from Texas to Tennessee in 1992... the kids in TN thought we were from "New Yaw-rk" because of the way we spoke. We had moved around so much as kids that, our accents were really muddled. I remember find that really funny even as a teen... that coming from Texas (such a country state) and moving to the other most well known country state and getting accused of being new yorkers. *shakes head*

I grew up in Vermont, where everyone speaks with a Northeastern accent.

Today I was doing a debate on the legalization of prostitution in my argument class. Well, I referenced Nevada.

Everyone in my class, with their Pa accent's thought it was hilarious the way I said.

Na, Vaa, Da instead of how they say it Ne, Va, Da.

It's like that with Aunt too. I say Aunt, while everyone else within this area say "Ant."

HejiraNYC · #**1253** 03-30-2011, 04:07 PM

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Originally Posted by HomerMcvie

From what I see of your un-shadowed picture, you're not ugly.

I don't think I'm anything to look at, but ya know what? It's all I've got, and life is short. And I don't plan on wasting another minute of my life....

Loving yourself, is the first step. Because once you do, most of the world will love you, too. And the ones who don't, are a waste of your time and energy, anyway!

OMG, THAT'S NOT ME!!! No, no, no, no... I just used a random image from Google to underscore the Facepalm-worthy comment. Ugh.

ontheEdgeof17 · #**1254** 03-30-2011, 04:10 PM

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Originally Posted by CreepingDeath

Maybe you saw me at a concert. I would have been high school age, though...

I've met you.

It seems I have met all the Secret Ledgies.

CreepingDeath · #**1255** 03-30-2011, 04:16 PM

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Originally Posted by daniellaaarisen

You sound so hot. Trade hair, please?!

Thank you. Where were you when I was in school? I was teased mercilessly for being too shy, having no friends, etc. I know it shouldn't, but it bothers me to this day.

BTW- You may have my hair. When I get a haircut, I'll send you the clippings.

HejiraNYC · #**1256** 03-30-2011, 04:22 PM

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Originally Posted by skcin

Dude, you have. I think you were at an event - a parade or something? Seriously, it was you with another person or group of people. I had no idea you were an Asian male until I saw it. Maybe another board?

^^Proof that I did not post a picture. HejiraNYC does not do parades or groups or other boards. And as far as I'm aware, I did not get snapped by the paparazzi at the B&N signing. If I sense a snapping camera in my midst, I will duck or run. I'm just not a fan of photography at all.

CreepingDeath · #**1257** 03-30-2011, 04:24 PM

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Originally Posted by ontheEdgeof17

I've met you.

It seems I have met all the Secret Ledgies.

And I looked like total, and complete sh*t that night. I wasn't too fun, either. I left early because I'm a pathetic addict and didn't want to be around friends that were drinking/having a good time, and be a Debbie downer. My excuse for leaving early was, I had to work the next morning.