Stevie after her mother's passing?

[Rod~A~Little]

How do you think the passing of Stevie's mom will affect her?

Will she withdraw from the public or throw herself into her work and writing?

[mikephxaz]

Originally Posted by Rod~A~Little

How do you think the passing of Stevie's mom will affect her?

Will she withdraw from the public or throw herself into her work and writing?

Grieving and then writing, writing, writing...I have a hunch that her next FM cd will be some of her most beautiful music...god bless her

[THINKABOUTIT]

I do believe she'll eventually go back to what she loves best I just wonder when...I have not lost a parent; I can only imagine

[Macfanforever]

I have to agree with both of you.Writing,working and writing.I've Lost my Mom,sister and my step dad in the last 8 years.It will take her time to heal.She will write more beautiful music.We will pray for her too.Mrs Nicks and Mr Nicks are like mom and dad to us.

[PolishStevieFan]

Let's hope that she'll find an inner peace in songwriting or any other realm of art. Something that ultimately she will be able to share with her second family, which means "us", her fans.

[Kena]

From my experience, when you lose someone, it always seems to open up past wounds... so you have to deal with them a bit and go through the grieving process of the newly lost loved one... I haven't lost a parent (yet) therefore I can't say I know the pain, but as the story goes, losing a parent is the natural progression of the life cycle. I once asked my grandmother, who is still living, if she was afraid of death and told her I was afraid of dealing with her death...she simply said "it's natural, your children are supposed to outlive you" and I found those words extremely comforting. Stevie will go through the grieving process like anyone else...who knows, maybe reunite with an old lover or possibly have someone new in her life, which will help her get through her darkest hour... (dang diggity I wish "that girl was me") she will surely write some beautiful songs like someone else mentioned...out of great tragedy will come great music right?


Of course it’s easy for me to say all this when I’m not her… just my thoughts. For what it’s worth.

[michelej1]

Originally Posted by Kena

From my experience, when you lose someone, it always seems to open up past wounds... so you have to deal with them a bit and go through the grieving process of the newly lost loved one... I haven't lost a parent (yet) therefore I can't say I know the pain, but as the story goes, losing a parent is the natural progression of the life cycle. I once asked my grandmother, who is still living, if she was afraid of death and told her I was afraid of dealing with her death...she simply said "it's natural, your children are supposed to outlive you" and I found those words extremely comforting.

If the person has lived to a good age, that's extremely comforting. My father was 75 when he died, but it still felt sudden. I guess because, until his stroke he was hearty and, when we walked together, he would mock me because he thought I couldn't keep up with him. So, it was shocking when he was stuck down. On the other hand, my grandmother was 87 when she passed and had been getting progressively weaker in those last years, so my brain had a lot of time to adjust to the thought that she would someday not be here. And her death was not devastating when it came, even though I loved her a great deal.

With Stevie's father, I think Stevie said on that SYW tour that she knew it would be his last time touring with her. They were making memories in preparation and I'm sure that eased the path a bit.

Michele

[Rod~A~Little]

I do agree that it is never easy losing someone. But it was mentioned that Stevie said on the SYW tour that her father's passing was expected, however her mother's was not.
Stevie is a Rock Soldier and I am sure she will grieve and then find the way to write and record some amazing songs! I just hope it's not another decade before we get to hear the next chapter in her recordings!

[JamieK]

I think it is iteresting to even think of what Stevie will do because life is so different now. Time moves differently in grief.

I don't know if anyone can relate but this one is as if your glasses are on crooked, you see people moving their mouths, you hear what they are saying, but there is no interest in comprehending or responding. In a minute, you go to pick up the phone to call and your hand stops in mid-air and you remember you can't now. No touching times. Days go by dark then light then dark. More people talking, calling, writing, taking you places. The constant wondering if she's OK there and what it's really like there and if it hurt to go and when will you get to see her again. Maybe go now to be with her, no that's not right. Floods of instant moments, memories, places, ages, times, being held, cradled, soothed, consoled, consulted, supported, loved, loved, loved. Not like that one ever again. Stop the thoughts, help the feelings, maybe listen to some music. Hear those words take on new meaning?

Do? What is there to do? I guess we will all wait and see. What. she. will. do. I know I'd like to have coffee with her and laugh. That would be a great thing to do. I love you guys. Stevie fans are the best. Let's keep sending her healing light and love.

[DESTINYRU!ES]

I send her healing and light and may she find comfort in her own lyrical prose:

"And the light that shines through the shinin' night
Is the lamp that I carried from my mother's home
And the light that burns through the window pane
And the love remains"

May it burn and heal your soul dear heart! Barbara would want that for you.

[blemelin]

I lost my father back in 2003 and one of my aunts (who was like a second mother) just died at the end of October. For a long time, grief and sorrow affect you in ways you don't even know. But even after a little while, the weight of the darkness and sadness start to lift, and if you're strong enough, you naturally resume your life and work. Right now, I'm sure Stevie and her brother (and the rest of the family) are experiencing the early days of it, where you just take... one. step. at. a. time.

Hopefully, with enough support and love, Stevie will rebound and soldier on. One thing is certain: she won't be exactly the same. In any event, we should all be ready to embrace her when she returns to us.

[mikephxaz]

Originally Posted by blemelin

I lost my father back in 2003 and one of my aunts (who was like a second mother) just died at the end of October. For a long time, grief and sorrow affect you in ways you don't even know. But even after a little while, the weight of the darkness and sadness start to lift, and if you're strong enough, you naturally resume your life and work. Right now, I'm sure Stevie and her brother (and the rest of the family) are experiencing the early days of it, where you just take... one. step. at. a. time.

Hopefully, with enough support and love, Stevie will rebound and soldier on. One thing is certain: she won't be exactly the same. In any event, we should all be ready to embrace her when she returns to us.

love this! beautifully said

[jellyman10]

Originally Posted by blemelin

I lost my father back in 2003 and one of my aunts (who was like a second mother) just died at the end of October. For a long time, grief and sorrow affect you in ways you don't even know. But even after a little while, the weight of the darkness and sadness start to lift, and if you're strong enough, you naturally resume your life and work. Right now, I'm sure Stevie and her brother (and the rest of the family) are experiencing the early days of it, where you just take... one. step. at. a. time.

Hopefully, with enough support and love, Stevie will rebound and soldier on. One thing is certain: she won't be exactly the same. In any event, we should all be ready to embrace her when she returns to us.

I agree. And thank you for putting it so well.

One of the best metaphors I ever read for grief is that when someone you love dies it's as if a huge jar of marbles exploded in the room that is your life. You spend a short time running about crazy trying to pick them all up again, but the truth is you're going to keep finding the odd one here and there for the rest of your life, even when you haven't found one for months and months.

Grief. Marbles. I lost my mother when I was 8 and I'm 47 now and that is pretty much how it feels to me. But I've also lived some very, very happy times in those 39 years. Life goes on, and it will for Stevie and Christopher. Bless them.

Loz

[Drummergrl]

Originally Posted by jellyman10

I agree. And thank you for putting it so well.

One of the best metaphors I ever read for grief is that when someone you love dies it's as if a huge jar of marbles exploded in the room that is your life. You spend a short time running about crazy trying to pick them all up again, but the truth is you're going to keep finding the odd one here and there for the rest of your life, even when you haven't found one for months and months.

Grief. Marbles. I lost my mother when I was 8 and I'm 47 now and that is pretty much how it feels to me. But I've also lived some very, very happy times in those 39 years. Life goes on, and it will for Stevie and Christopher. Bless them.

Loz

I am sorry for your loss, and I can pretty much relate to what you said. I cannot imagine losing my Mom at that age, 'cause you have all this time still ahead of you, and are left to try and pick up the pieces. I lost my mother shortly after my 17th b-day, and that was hard enough. She was 38 and just too young, but very sick, and it happened so fast that I was in shock. Everything that weekend was a blur. I think the hardest part is shortly after the funeral, when you are alone with your thoughts and memories. Yeah, life does go on, but I still miss my Mom to this day. As I'm sure you know, with a loss like that, you learn to cope with it the best way you can. Everyone grieves differently too. My heart really goes out to Stevie and her family, but especially Stevie, as she was so close to her Mom. Been praying for the Nicks family, and I will continue to, and yes, bless them, and bless you too.

[sara1998]

Originally Posted by jellyman10

I agree. And thank you for putting it so well.

One of the best metaphors I ever read for grief is that when someone you love dies it's as if a huge jar of marbles exploded in the room that is your life. You spend a short time running about crazy trying to pick them all up again, but the truth is you're going to keep finding the odd one here and there for the rest of your life, even when you haven't found one for months and months.

Grief. Marbles. I lost my mother when I was 8 and I'm 47 now and that is pretty much how it feels to me. But I've also lived some very, very happy times in those 39 years. Life goes on, and it will for Stevie and Christopher. Bless them.

Loz

That is an awesome metaphor. And so true. I lost my husband almost 9 years ago, and that is exactly what it's like. Thanks for that.