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Originally Posted by Betsy
Hey Pip --
I don't know you, but I have a suggestion...
If you want to vent, cuss, throw a temper tantrum -- whatever... tell us....get it all out of your system...but don't do it infront of the kids.
We can offer advice, encouragment, prayers, and join in on the cursing ...
I made the mistake (one too many times) complaining to the kids about dad's shortcomings and his moving out...and it just backfired... They began to see me as the bad guy, and began trying to please dad and before I knew it, I had to deal with Saint Dad and nothing I did was right in their eyes. I should have kept my mouth shut.
It is better to let them assess the situation themselves.
Things change and we change...and 5 years from now...this probably won't be a blimp on the radar.
Hang in there and remember there are lots of friends thinking of you.
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Thanks. I have never bad mouthed him in front of the kids and I never would. This is why he makes me so cross when he does the things he does and puts them in an awkward position. He took a load of my kids DVD's to his house and then I found out it was for the other child to watch. I asked for them back. Rhiannon tried to bring them back at the weekend and he sarcastically said to her 'who paid for them' ... wanker