are you in a relationship?

[all the same]

Originally Posted by xdreamsunwindx

Hahaha. That's funny. It's like, who can be the weepiest, eyeliner-clad english mope rocker?

I'd say Moz, since, well, he's more weepy. Robert tends to make me happy. <3

Me too! Unless it's a song like Trust which basically puts me on the kitchen floor. I'm a mess when I listen to Trust.

[Johnny Stew]

Originally Posted by takenbythesky

That's scary. Practically the scariest words I've read here since "husband hunters."

I won't lie, Justin... it won't be easy being one of the "relationship oriented" guys, because you do get quickly written off by the guys who "just want to have a good time," and you also get quickly latched onto by the guys who are desperately seeking someone, anyone.

Of course, the guys in both extremes do make it a little easier for you in many aspects, because they basically weed themselves out!

But there are guys out there who aren't going to rush you into a relationship because they wanted to be "married" yesterday, and there are also guys out there who won't go into panic mode at the very thought of something even remotely resembling commitment. It's just a little harder to find them.

[all the same]

Originally Posted by Johnny Stew

Pre-Joshua (my boyfriend), I always said that my love-life would've been a lot less complicated if I was just into the random hookups that all the other gay guys around here seem to be into. (Well, not ALL the gay guys around here. We also have our fair share of the "you seem nice -- so since I'm single and you're single, let's move in together this weekend" guys.)

Some of us just don't seem to be "wired" for it though, so I feel your pain.

I'm glad you get it! I feel like one of the few who won't just **** around with someone. Not that I haven't done it, I just end up feeling worse after than I did before. Some people can just enjoy the physical at the time. Myself, I feel like I need more than that.

[all the same]

Originally Posted by GateandGarden

Sometimes I'm bitter about being single, other times I prefer it.

I;'m the same way too. My singleness is like an organism too. Sometimes it gets hungry, other times, it's doin' just fine!

[Johnny Stew]

Originally Posted by all the same

I feel like one of the few who won't just **** around with someone. Not that I haven't done it, I just end up feeling worse after than I did before.

"The loneliness of a one-night stand is hard to take...."

I learned how true those words were, and knew I never wanted to feel like that again.

Originally Posted by all the same

Some people can just enjoy the physical at the time. Myself, I feel like I need more than that.

I know what you mean.
The bad part of it is, that most guys then assume that you want to be madly in love with them before you'll do anything, so they run the other direction... when it's not really that at all. It's just that you want to feel a little deeper of a connection than just mutual horniness.

But don't worry too much... guys like you and I are out there. I know that for a fact.
You will find someone.

[macfanken]

Originally Posted by all the same

I'm glad you get it! I feel like one of the few who won't just **** around with someone. Not that I haven't done it, I just end up feeling worse after than I did before. Some people can just enjoy the physical at the time. Myself, I feel like I need more than that.

I usually feel like being celibate for a really long time after a one night stand.