OK, meeting Stevie tomorrow...q's??

[StreetAngel86]

Originally Posted by Ghost_Tracker

I think maybe for the presentation of the "Plate" itself (on TV in the
country where she is touring in February...) Stevie wanted to look like
a Rock Star more than a Fancy Horse Race person. She was maybe
being a Rock Rebel a little bit and dressing like SHE wanted to, not
like these Fancy so-and-so's would have preferred her to -
"take it or leave it, I don't care what you think" etc.
I bet you ANY amount of money that some of these people were
whispering behind her back about the huge feathers in her hat, for
example.
Trust her, hmmm?

oooooh no i'm not talking about the R&R outfit i LOVED that
i msged all my friends and told them Stevie was wearing her TOP HAT
that was veeeeeeeeeeery cool
Cup day is all about fashion but i wouldnt go there and dress in a square inch of material with an ugly ass hat and fake tan and show off to people
props to Stevie for maintaing her BLACKNESS
i personally just did not care for that outfit

[Ghost_Tracker]

Originally Posted by StreetAngel86

oooooh no i'm not talking about the R&R outfit i LOVED that
i msged all my friends and told them Stevie was wearing her TOP HAT
that was veeeeeeeeeeery cool
Cup day is all about fashion but i wouldnt go there and dress in a square inch of material with an ugly ass hat and fake tan and show off to people
props to Stevie for maintaing her BLACKNESS
i personally just did not care for that outfit

Don't mind me, I was just being "bitchy"

[Janis_no1]

thank you guys for your words, they really are appreciated, and i need them at the moment. Its now monday and im at work. To be honest I dont know what is going on with me. I seem to be in a depressed state and yet it is not like me. I am going to be honest and some ledgies may not take it well, i was a little disappointed in stevie. She seemed to be more like them.... I could tell she was doing business, which i know is what she was there fore, and really i should of expected it since she has been doing business stuff for 30years, but i couldn't help but expect what everyone has always said she is. I was expecting someone to be interested, social, warm and i dont know.. I
I shall post the pics up tonight. In the andrew tent i was made to feel very common. Dale and i know how to dress, and we are not paupers and we are familiar with a professional environment, but boy i have really walked away feeling damn sh%t. I had a lady tell me when i told her how i had come to be there say "oh i didn't know they were letting the general public in" and when i very kindly asked an appropriate lady how i obtain tickets and she did kindly say that they could do that for me, when she introduced me to the one who could arrange it she said "now this doesn't mean you can get them cheaper, or a deal or any of the sort ok" i was terribly offended. So i have been haunted since and feel very upset by my experience.
I know that i should feel so happy that i got to meet her, and that is a wonderful moment, but i was so shaken up that even though i was there... i wasn't. And i missed it. It meant so much to me and as you know i went to great efforts yet i missed it. Guys i had the opportunity and time to say those things we dream of saying and i didn't say any of it. I could of asked for an autogragh... and i didn't. I had bought the box set etc with me and a gold pen and could of asked for a signature, but i was too scared that i would be rejected and receive disapproval. I cant remember what i said.... because i was so shocked at how i was spoken to by Andrew that i lost myself and my calmness and clarity of mind was shaken along with my self esteem so i ended up wasting my opportunity... As you can see i am terribly upset in myself, terribly upset with a wasted opportunity that i made happen yet threw away. I dont know now how to approach the lady at Andrew company about the tickets.. How do i phrase the email as i now feel ant size and want to come across as someone who does matter and boy i'd love to obtain backstage passes so i could try again .

Oh great i missed her on tv and radio this morning... Cant seem to win at the moment.

So here i am at work, 10.25am, and everyone is asking me how it went, and they all know something is majorly up, been asked by my boss whats going on and i want is to go home.

I dont know whats up with me...??
Im sorry that i am like this, i know i have also disappointed you guys, but tonight i shall post the pic i do have. And yes stevie was thinner than what i expected. She did have a lot of make up on and she certianly knew how to pose. I have to go down the road and get yesterdays paper to see the pics of her sitting wearing the glasses... she was sitting 1.5metres away from me having those taken.

Hope to be in better spirits for you all tonight and remember something .. mind i think has blackened it out..

[Mageboy25]

Hello dear, I am not trying to hurt your feelings but you should be quite happy you got your pic taken with her. Most of us haven't and never will. Stevie does not owe you anything. Maybe this letter will make some sense to you. Its been on the Pat Benatar board for years. It kind of relates to your experience. If it makes you feel any better I met Stevie face to face in 2001, and no she wasn't very nice at all. In fact I left the brief encounter comparing her to all the rock singers I have met in the past Pat Benatar, Cyndi Lauper, Cher, Belinda Carlisle, Debbie Harry etc etc. Stevie was the most remote and unfriendly out of all of them. Yeah I know the next part of this is bla bla if I was Stevie I would probably be the same damn way. I would not be all that friendly to strangers annoying me either. She cannot go anywhere without people annoying and bugging her. I still think the years of drug abuse have made her cold and bitter.

Ok anyway here is the letter:


Pat Benatar Fan Club
A Letter from a FanA fan club member sent this note to me after one of the past concerts. It is posted here not to criticize, impart feelings of guilt or other wrongdoing. It is simply here to help us keep our perspective on things. Feel free to let me know your thoughts by clicking on the link at the bottom of the page:



There are certain benefits that some people have earned by running the fan club and doing a whole lot of the work. I've certainly benefited, (and have done less than my share of the work) but as much as I enjoy getting back to say hello, I still don't feel like it's my right, and I'm grateful for the opportunity.

If people are going to the shows because they believe that being a fan club member means the you have the right to meet Pat, then they haven't read their ticket stubs, nor do they understand what a fan's rights are.


You have the right to good music.




You have the right to attend as many shows as you can afford.


You have the right to discuss your feelings about the music and shows on the listserver or lurk if you want to.


You do not have the right to forcefully thrust your opinions on other people. If they don't agree with you, they don't agree. Let it go.


You do not have the right to wander into the venue and announce that you belong because you are a fan club member. If you are invited by Pat, Neil or the band, then by all means, if a meet and greet is planned, come on in.


Soundchecks and backstage are by invitation only.

Being a fan club member simply means that you are a fan who has had the good taste to hook up with a bunch of other fans to discuss topics that interest you all. It is a social group. It is free! You do not have to be here. You are not "owed" anything. You do not have a right to anything that is not given freely.- A Fan

[Janis_no1]

I understand what you are saying. I know Stevie doesn't know or owe me anything, and my upset isn't so much with Stevie as it is with my overall experience there which im angry that i allowed it to ruin my time with her. I know i should be grateful for the photo, i know that... i saw her getting so many photo's taken that it was difficult to take the nasty tone given to me by the promoter when he overheard i was getting one. I feel as though i let not only myself down but also the people who knew i was going, and of course the ledgies here. I expected more of myself, and i feel an overwhelming amount of disappointment in myself as i let other fans down too.

[JazmenFlowers]

Originally Posted by Janis_no1

I understand what you are saying. I know Stevie doesn't know or owe me anything, and my upset isn't so much with Stevie as it is with my overall experience there which im angry that i allowed it to ruin my time with her. I know i should be grateful for the photo, i know that... i saw her getting so many photo's taken that it was difficult to take the nasty tone given to me by the promoter when he overheard i was getting one. I feel as though i let not only myself down but also the people who knew i was going, and of course the ledgies here. I expected more of myself, and i feel an overwhelming amount of disappointment in myself as i let other fans down too.

honey, don't worry about it - you got in and got a picture! something 99% of us will never be able to experience. be proud of that and treasure it...shake off the other crap and think of how lucky you are! perk up and post some pics! and thanks for sharing your experiences with us and keeping us updated.

[Enchanted_Stevi]

Originally Posted by Janis_no1

I understand what you are saying. I know Stevie doesn't know or owe me anything, and my upset isn't so much with Stevie as it is with my overall experience there which im angry that i allowed it to ruin my time with her. I know i should be grateful for the photo, i know that... i saw her getting so many photo's taken that it was difficult to take the nasty tone given to me by the promoter when he overheard i was getting one. I feel as though i let not only myself down but also the people who knew i was going, and of course the ledgies here. I expected more of myself, and i feel an overwhelming amount of disappointment in myself as i let other fans down too.

I know exactily how u feel because when i went to a Fm concert...I was only 13 in the 7th grade in 2003 and I was SOOOOO excited when i got there I was soooooo in shock that I got to see her I cant even remeber the concert and I felt bad that the next day I couldn;t remeber!...So I know how u feel!

[Janis_no1]

Yeah i know... and i normally would take that feeling away from the day! This is not like me.... !!

Thats why i feel so unusual and dont know how to deal with my feelings, because they dont make any sense to me. I dont understand why i feel this way, i SHOULD feel lucky and fortunate yet i cant friken understand why i dont! Thats why i decided not to post on saturday and i decided not to get online at all yesterday.. the only reason i could think of as to why i felt so messed up was because i was tired... yet the feeling wont leave. So i decided to be honest and share how i was feeling and try to come up with why it was that way by explaining it out loud as to try and help myself and also explain as to why i had disappeared.

I dont feel like the day actually happened at all, its real weird

The pic is on the camera still, i shall upload tonight...

[dissention]

Originally Posted by JazmenFlowers

honey, don't worry about it - you got in and got a picture! something 99% of us will never be able to experience. be proud of that and treasure it...shake off the other crap and think of how lucky you are! perk up and post some pics! and thanks for sharing your experiences with us and keeping us updated.

I'm not Janis, but a picture would lose a lot if it's value if it was taken at an event where I was made to feel common and beneath the other people there. In any event, Janis, I'm sorry that it wasn't a good experience for you. Try not to let it wear on your mind, though, it's essentially pretty insignificant in the grand scheme of things. Some things work out, some don't. There's always a better, more fulfilling experience to be had out there.

[Enchanted_Stevi]

wait when was Stevie on TV DID I MISS IT!!!! Was it on Tv in the US?!?!?!?!

[JazmenFlowers]

Originally Posted by dissention

I'm not Janis, but a picture would lose a lot if it's value if it was taken at an event where I was made to feel common and beneath the other people there. In any event, Janis, I'm sorry that it wasn't a good experience for you. Try not to let it wear on your mind, though, it's essentially pretty insignificant in the grand scheme of things. Some things work out, some don't. There's always a better, more fulfilling experience to be had out there.

true, tho that is the nature of showbiz - and I was just saying not to let the attitude of some insignificant bozo who happened to have a little power make her feel like crap and enjoy the good things she was able to take from the experience. stevie surely wouldn't appreciate that jackass acting like that...and I wouldn't let him ruin a happy moment being that close to stevie and having a record of it...that's life...gotta take the good with the bad...and being that close to stevie and having a freaking picture too is pretty rad, my friend

[dissention]

Originally Posted by Enchanted_Stevi

DID I MISS IT!!!!

Yes.

Was it on Tv in the US?!?!?!?!

No.

[Janis_no1]

nope aus, my dad called me to ask how it was, did i meet her etc, and i said i did, and he said she was on tv this morning and the radio.... Of course i said i was busy so i didn't have to address saturdays events. How does my dad know about interviews yet i do not..damn

[Enchanted_Stevi]

Originally Posted by dissention

Yes.



No.

GRRRRR!!!!!!! I wonder if anyone could send me a copy

[jannieC]

Jayne- I think you are feeling this way because you had such high expectations. Somehow I think I'd probably feel the same way you do. Don't be embarrassed for how you feel.

Originally Posted by Mageboy25

Hello dear, I am not trying to hurt your feelings but you should be quite happy you got your pic taken with her. Most of us haven't and never will. Stevie does not owe you anything.

I don't believe she thought that Stevie owed her anything. I think the vibe was just really sh*tty, perhaps due to other people there, perhaps due in part to Stevie herself. She was letdown and is feeling badly. And truthfully, if I'm going to be honest, I think celebrities do owe it to their fans to be kind and, oh maybe- nice, in this particular setting. It's not like she accosted Stevie at a restaurant.

Originally Posted by dissention

I'm not Janis, but a picture would lose a lot if it's value if it was taken at an event where I was made to feel common and beneath the other people there. In any event, Janis, I'm sorry that it wasn't a good experience for you. Try not to let it wear on your mind, though, it's essentially pretty insignificant in the grand scheme of things. Some things work out, some don't. There's always a better, more fulfilling experience to be had out there.

This is your best advice. I don't know why, but for some reason I really do feel for you right now!