What are ways to show a girl you like them and want to be with them?

jr2280 · #1 05-29-2009, 06:26 PM

I was going out with a girl for maybe a month and she said she wanted to be just friends for now, and said I need to show her I want to be with her. so what are ways to impress her and and be a gentleman.

jannieC · #2 05-29-2009, 06:34 PM

How old are you?

jr2280 · #3 05-29-2009, 06:36 PM

Im 22 and so is she

nailatixela · #4 05-29-2009, 06:42 PM

Hey fellow PA pal...I'm sure the girls here would be much more help with your situation.

I just had to say I was almost positive that this thread was started by Ethan before I clicked on it.

LukeA · #5 05-29-2009, 06:45 PM

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Originally Posted by nailatixela

I just had to say I was almost positive that this thread was started by Ethan before I clicked on it.

I knew it wasn't Ethan when I saw the subject wasn't all in caps.

Musicman408 · #6 05-29-2009, 08:46 PM

When I first saw this I was like:

"Who the hell brought back one of my old threads????"

Glad to see I'm not the only one to ever ask for this kind of thing!

JWS · #7 05-29-2009, 09:32 PM

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Originally Posted by nailatixela

Hey fellow PA pal...I'm sure the girls here would be much more help with your situation.

I just had to say I was almost positive that this thread was started by Ethan before I clicked on it.

Ain't that the truth. ethan starts a monthly girl thread

jannieC · #8 05-29-2009, 10:03 PM

Well I think it's somewhat telling that she says this one month into the relationship? What have you been doing so far? Most people are pretty into it that early on and don't have difficulty showing it unless one is painfully shy.

vivfox · #9 06-07-2009, 06:02 PM

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Originally Posted by jr2280

I was going out with a girl for maybe a month and she said she wanted to be just friends for now, and said I need to show her I want to be with her. so what are ways to impress her and and be a gentleman.

Don't be too nice. Treat her like crap and she'll be begging for your attention, or just ignore her altogether. Within 3 weeks she'll be calling trying to figure out where you've been.

michelle2677 · #10 06-07-2009, 07:38 PM

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Originally Posted by vivfox

Don't be too nice. Treat her like crap and she'll be begging for your attention, or just ignore her altogether. Within 3 weeks she'll be calling trying to figure out where you've been.

true, but don't act like guys don't do the same exact thing.

tuigirl · #11 06-08-2009, 05:41 AM

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Originally Posted by vivfox

Don't be too nice. Treat her like crap and she'll be begging for your attention, or just ignore her altogether. Within 3 weeks she'll be calling trying to figure out where you've been.

What????? Are you insane? Treat her like crap, and if she's got a brain, she'll be gone....

SuzeQuze · #12 06-09-2009, 07:17 AM

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Originally Posted by jr2280

I was going out with a girl for maybe a month and she said she wanted to be just friends for now, and said I need to show her I want to be with her. so what are ways to impress her and and be a gentleman.

Do you think you were aloof or standoffish? Or do you think she is off base and maybe needs too much attention? If the former is true then I would try being more demonstrative, you have nothing to lose at this point. I'm with the flowers crew. If the latter is true then I would take Carrie's advice and just move on.

Zombie · #13 06-09-2009, 10:50 AM

The wimmins is weird, but if she actually has a valid reason for wanting you to show her you care (like you were being aloof before or something, as other posters have mentioned), then I'm of the sound opinion that actions speak louder than words.

Think of something she really enjoys or likes, and do something for her that revolves around that. We can use my boyfriend as an example (because he's just fantastic, really... not that I'm bragging...okay, I'm bragging):

I have a fetish for boysenberry pancake syrup from IHOP. Unfortunately, there are no IHOPs anywhere near where I live so I rarely get to indulge in said fetish. On his way home from a weekend trip, my boyfriend spontaneously stopped at a random IHOP and bribed the workers into giving him something like a quart of freakin' boysenberry syrup.

10,000 points!

He does random acts of awesome like that on a fairly regular basis, from the pancake syrup thing to making me an Easter basket to putting ridiculous music on the Waffle House jukebox at 2 AM and dancing me around the room amidst somnolent truckers and drunken bikers.

Oh, and he left me his hacked Xbox with the NES emulator on it so I can play me some old-school Street Fighter whenever I please while he's back in Florida for work.
If that ain't love, then I don't know what is.

Be creative and all will be well in your peaceable kingdom.