they say it only comes when you don't want it...

[DavidMn]

Originally Posted by WildInTheWind

Why thank you.

I wish I could say the same thing about my relationship status. It's a long story, but suffice it to say, I admit fault in it too.

[WildInTheWind]

Originally Posted by DavidMn

I wish I could say the same thing about my relationship status. It's a long story, but suffice it to say, I admit fault in it too.

Awww....I'm sorry to hear that.

[lagringader&r]

Originally Posted by all the same

...but i've been pretending i don't want it my entire life. how do you make yourself just not want it? it seems so simple but so impossible. what do i gotta do?

Say out loud "I'm never going to have sex or fall in love" and you'll find it within a week. Guaranteed.

[bikerchic]

Coming from a 41 year old heterosexual woman, sex only gets better with age JMO

[WildInTheWind]

Originally Posted by lagringader&r

Say out loud "I'm never going to have sex or fall in love" and you'll find it within a week. Guaranteed.

Funny how that works, isn't it? It's so true. Though it can be a bad thing...like "I have never been called for jury duty". And do you know where I was today? Yep.

[DavidMn]

Originally Posted by WildInTheWind

Awww....I'm sorry to hear that.

Hey thank you for the support. Men are such asses sometimes, arent they. But when they're good, they are very good......

[WildInTheWind]

Originally Posted by DavidMn

Hey thank you for the support. Men are such asses sometimes, arent they. But when they're good, they are very good......

This is true! The one I have hasn't been an ass YET. It's been almost 7 months, so I'm sure it is coming soon. The one before him was 4 years of total asshole. I was so glad to finally see him gone

[DavidMn]

Originally Posted by WildInTheWind

This is true! The one I have hasn't been an ass YET. It's been almost 7 months, so I'm sure it is coming soon. The one before him was 4 years of total asshole. I was so glad to finally see him gone

Well, I'm glad you got rid of him before something bad happened. The thing I hate about gay men is that they're soooo F^^ing dramatic sometimes. NOt that I'm not prone to that once in awhile, but this guy I'm with now, although he's really a good guy overall, just drives me nuts sometimes. Sounds like fun huh?

[all the same]

Originally Posted by DavidMn

You know, I said that until I was 26. Boy then all hell broke loose.

Funny. I was 26 too. Not by choice at all. It just sorta happened that way. All hell most certainly did not break loose after that. I guess I just have no idea how all these things work and the older i get, the more weird i get about it all. In the words of Morrissey "The story is old, I know, but it goes on..."

[DavidMn]

Originally Posted by all the same

Funny. I was 26 too. Not by choice at all. It just sorta happened that way. All hell most certainly did not break loose after that. I guess I just have no idea how all these things work and the older i get, the more weird i get about it all. In the words of Morrissey "The story is old, I know, but it goes on..."

Well, I was sorta kidding with the "All hell broke loose" thing. I mean I havent been with like 400 guys, but for a little while there it was interesting. I guess it's from that pent up energy.

[all the same]

Originally Posted by DavidMn

Well, I was sorta kidding with the "All hell broke loose" thing. I mean I havent been with like 400 guys, but for a little while there it was interesting. I guess it's from that pent up energy.

Oh, I've got plenty of pent up energy...

why did you give me so much desire?
when there is nowhere I can go
to offload this desire?
and why did you give me so much love
in a loveless world?
when there is no one I can turn to
to unlock all this love

and why did you stick me in
self-deprecating bones and skin
Jesus - do you hate me?
why did you stick me in
self-deprecating bones and skin
... do you hate me?

MORRISSEY

[Johnny Stew]

What a weird coincidence... I was 26 my first time, too.
I had a lot of stuff to work through (and was still working through a few things even at that time), so I think I made the right decision waiting as long as I did.

I don't regret it... I've always been a quality over quantity kind of guy anyway.

Daniel, if it's a relationship you're looking for, I will say this from experience....
"Good things come to those who wait."
I used to always hate hearing that, but it's true.
Try not to dwell on it too much, remind yourself that "what will be, will be," and focus your energies on things that you enjoy. It'll find you when it's time.

But if it's just sex you're looking for... well, that seems extremely easy to find.

[markolas]

Originally Posted by Johnny Stew

But if it's just sex you're looking for... well, that seems extremely easy to find.

Not *good* sex, apparently.

[ontheEdgeof17]

Originally Posted by bikerchic

Coming from a 41 year old heterosexual woman, sex only gets better with age JMO

heterosexual. woman. sex.


Three words that should never be spoken in the same breath.

[all the same]

Originally Posted by Johnny Stew

But if it's just sex you're looking for... well, that seems extremely easy to find.

Weird, we've got a pile of 26-ers in the house!

I've been down the just sex path and was left feeling far more empty afterward than I did going in. So, I won't go there again. A client of mine found love for the first time at 40. So, I may just have to wait... and wait... and wait... In all honesty though, I don't want a relationship that often, but when I do, it becomes quite overwhelming.

Once again, to quote Morrissey: "My love, wherever you are, whatever you are, don't lose faith. I know it's gonna happen some day to you. Please wait. Don't lose faith."