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JazmenFlowers · #16 07-05-2005, 01:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Sweet Memory

Hi,

I was about to ask your age, etc...but I see that you are only 25! If you get offered the job...MOVE! The only thing I could add would be to ask if they will cover your moving expenses. I assume they will, but sometimes you need to make sure. My husband's company pays a moving stipend, but my bil's company take's care of the works! Everything from calling the movers to helping make living arrangements in the new town. They even pay your rent/house payment for 6 months while waiting for your old house to sell!

I agree that you should keep the house you have now if at all possible since this is where your family is. You will certainly want someone to manage your property and the manager should properly screen and check references of your renters. That's important! Good luck with the interview!

thanks for the advice. I will ask them tomorrow about covering the expenses, but I doubt they plan on doing that, although one thing is that they called me knowing that I live 3 hours away - maybe they will take that into consideration. thanks for the good wishes.

Gailh · #17 07-05-2005, 01:31 PM

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Originally Posted by JazmenFlowers

So, I've been at my present job for 3 1/2 years and am very secure and have a great supervisory position, making good money. I bought a house 2 years ago. All of a sudden, a great opportunity to supervise an entire dept. and make more money has come up in New Orleans. I have an interview tomorrow but I'm pretty sure I will be offered the job just from our phone conversations. So, my question is this, what would you do? NOLA is about 3 hours away - away from friends, family, etc., cost of living is a little more and I know very little about where to live. However, it is a great opportunity for me to move to a bigger firm and get into a city that has great venues and things going on all the time. I'm torn. If I decide to go, it will be a whirlwind for a couple months as I get ready to move, but I don't want to let a good thing slip by. Of course, I could be counting by chickens before they hatch as they say...Thoughts?

Did you read the thread on the Rumours board about our biggest Fleetwood Mac regrets? Most of them were about things we DIDN'T do not about things we did.

Gail

JazmenFlowers · #18 07-05-2005, 01:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Gailh

Did you read the thread on the Rumours board about our biggest Fleetwood Mac regrets? Most of them were about things we DIDN'T do not about things we did.

Gail

I didn't, but that pretty much describes a lot of the anxiety I have. I don't want to make the wrong decision, but I don't want to look back in 5-10 years and wonder where I'd be had I moved. Thanks for your thoughts.

GateandGarden · #19 07-05-2005, 01:38 PM

I think working in New Orleans would be wonderful. I personally think it's an excitng and wonderful place and if I can be worked out, I think that would be a great thing for you. This might be my paranoia (which I admit can be a little extreme in some situations) but I would say move into an apartment or house outside city limits because of the crime issues. You could still live close to work but not in the one of the many daunting areas. Maybe I'm just a nut but I thought I'd throw that out there. And I don't think 3 hours is too bad at all. As it is, I love daytripping to MS often enough, and I bet you'd get into that habit if you moved. Going back home to visit wouldn't be too much of a hassle at all. JMO.

JazmenFlowers · #20 07-05-2005, 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted by GateandGarden

I think working in New Orleans would be wonderful. I personally think it's an excitng and wonderful place and if I can be worked out, I think that would be a great thing for you. This might be my paranoia (which I admit can be a little extreme in some situations) but I would say move into an apartment or house outside city limits because of the crime issues. You could still live close to work but not in the one of the many daunting areas. Maybe I'm just a nut but I thought I'd throw that out there. And I don't think 3 hours is too bad at all. As it is, I love daytripping to MS often enough, and I bet you'd get into that habit if you moved. Going back home to visit wouldn't be too much of a hassle at all. JMO.

thanks Hill - I've thought about living in Metairie or somewhere similar. Lots of things running through my head.

**mylittledemon** · #21 07-05-2005, 01:43 PM

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Originally Posted by JazmenFlowers

I didn't, but that pretty much describes a lot of the anxiety I have. I don't want to make the wrong decision, but I don't want to look back in 5-10 years and wonder where I'd be had I moved. Thanks for your thoughts.

What you just said right there is an indicator of what you need to do then. Don't NOT do something because you're anxious or scared about it, especially if you feel you might wonder about it or regret it down the road. I'm only 25 and there are tons of things I wish I had done to change where I'm at now. Hindsight is a beeyotch.

dudden22 · #22 07-05-2005, 01:44 PM

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Originally Posted by JazmenFlowers

So, I've been at my present job for 3 1/2 years and am very secure and have a great supervisory position, making good money. I bought a house 2 years ago. All of a sudden, a great opportunity to supervise an entire dept. and make more money has come up in New Orleans. I have an interview tomorrow but I'm pretty sure I will be offered the job just from our phone conversations. So, my question is this, what would you do? NOLA is about 3 hours away - away from friends, family, etc., cost of living is a little more and I know very little about where to live. However, it is a great opportunity for me to move to a bigger firm and get into a city that has great venues and things going on all the time. I'm torn. If I decide to go, it will be a whirlwind for a couple months as I get ready to move, but I don't want to let a good thing slip by. Of course, I could be counting by chickens before they hatch as they say...Thoughts?

If you have no room for advancement in your current company, I would definitely go for it. As stressful as it is, I usually view change as a positive thing. You will begin a new chapter in your life. In my personal experience I have never learned or gained anything from playing it safe. It is all about taking chances, which can be very scary, but also very exciting.

SuzeQuze · #23 07-05-2005, 01:48 PM

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Thanks for the advice. I'm actually a paralegal currently supervising about 7 other paralegals - and in the legal field it's rare that a paralegal really moves up. This position would be managing an entire mass tort dept., which is a huge thing in our world.

Everything you say about this job and your new location sounds phenomenal to me. I say go for it. It sounds like that is what you want but you are a little scared which is normal. But, feel the fear and do it anyway! And I swear I am not saying this so I'll have someone to visit in Nawluns.

JazmenFlowers · #24 07-05-2005, 02:10 PM

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Originally Posted by SuzeQuze

Everything you say about this job and your new location sounds phenomenal to me. I say go for it. It sounds like that is what you want but you are a little scared which is normal. But, feel the fear and do it anyway! And I swear I am not saying this so I'll have someone to visit in Nawluns.

ha! if everything works out, you'll always have a place to stay. we'll hit prada and louis vuitton and party it up on bourbon.

SuzeQuze · #25 07-05-2005, 02:27 PM

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Originally Posted by JazmenFlowers

ha! if everything works out, you'll always have a place to stay. we'll hit prada and louis vuitton and party it up on bourbon.

No suh! Sounds like a dream.

I was there once but during Mardi Gras so I want to go again at a time when it is a little bit easier to get around the city.

JazmenFlowers · #26 07-05-2005, 03:12 PM

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Originally Posted by SuzeQuze

No suh! Sounds like a dream.

I was there once but during Mardi Gras so I want to go again at a time when it is a little bit easier to get around the city.

sounds good - I'll keep you updated and promise not to stay in the queer bars the ENTIRE time. HA

darklinensuit · #27 07-05-2005, 03:18 PM

Before you can make this decision you need a strong sense of the new company. Do you like the people there? Have you met many of them? Will your opinions be valued? Is morale high? These things are huge factors to me - relationships can make or break a job, especially when you're new to a city.

- Jake

JazmenFlowers · #28 07-05-2005, 03:22 PM

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Originally Posted by darklinensuit

Before you can make this decision you need a strong sense of the new company. Do you like the people there? Have you met many of them? Will your opinions be valued? Is morale high? These things are huge factors to me - relationships can make or break a job, especially when you're new to a city.

- Jake

Very true. I have met one of the named partners and she is very sweet - as far as the firm goes, never really met anyone else to get an idea as to how they operate, etc. I guess I'll get that tomorrow. One good thing is that they represent 2 clients I specifically represent now so I have great relationships with those and understand their extranets...what are the odds of that?!