I was abused at work today - Page 2

amber · #16 12-28-2004, 08:12 PM

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Originally Posted by takenbythesky

Ugh...Once I was outside the counselling area at school taking a test, and a teacher looked over my shoulder and unctuously asked me what subject the test was in. I mumbled "Science," and then he said, "Oh...I recall in school that us boys really liked Science, especially when it had to do with reproductive matters..." then mentioned a couple other GROSS things.

This guy apparently fooled around with male students in the past. I thought, "STAND BACK CREEP!" All I did was basically ignore him until he went away...Ugh, he's so gross. Anyway, I think you handled your situation well, madformac!
--Justin

Whoa!!!! Ewwwww!!!!

madformac · #17 12-28-2004, 08:13 PM

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Originally Posted by amber

You're a big boy? no!

Glad you're pulling through, Big Boy!

Haha, well I can't possibly comment on here can I..

I mean't I'm a big enough boy to handle myself... hang on, that could be interpreted too couldn't it...

Erm, I'm big and old enough to look after myself in a confrontation... How's that?

madformac · #18 12-28-2004, 08:17 PM

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Originally Posted by takenbythesky

Ugh...Once I was outside the counselling area at school taking a test, and a teacher looked over my shoulder and unctuously asked me what subject the test was in. I mumbled "Science," and then he said, "Oh...I recall in school that us boys really liked Science, especially when it had to do with reproductive matters..." then mentioned a couple other GROSS things.

This guy apparently fooled around with male students in the past. I thought, "STAND BACK CREEP!" All I did was basically ignore him until he went away...Ugh, he's so gross. Anyway, I think you handled your situation well, madformac!
--Justin

Thanks for the praise..

That's awful.. Sorry to hear about it happening.. I know it shouldn't make a difference but when it's a respected member of the community like a teacher, with the responsibility that goes with the position of influencing children it disgusts me even more..

amber · #19 12-28-2004, 08:21 PM

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Originally Posted by madformac

Haha, well I can't possibly comment on here can I..

I mean't I'm a big enough boy to handle myself... hang on, that could be interpreted too couldn't it...

Erm, I'm big and old enough to look after myself in a confrontation... How's that?

um....I pic the first one...

madformac · #20 12-28-2004, 08:23 PM

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Originally Posted by amber

um....I pic the first one...

I somehow figured you might amber...

strandinthewind · #21 12-28-2004, 08:27 PM

That is HORRIBLE. No one likes to be or should EVER be touched in an unwanted manner.

I would, however, check with a lawyer or at least with your store's legal dept. regarding their policy, etc. I am unsure if you attacked this guy and beat him to a pulp if you would not also be brought up on charges, when just pushing him away would have sufficed. I do not know the law in England, but it might be worth checking out just so you know.

I am not in any way condoning what this jerk did, I am jut trying save you possible heartache

Also, you probably could have him arrested. Again, I do not know the law there, but that would be possible here in America - and that certainly would end the signal you wanted to send.

wondergirl9847 · #22 12-28-2004, 08:29 PM

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Originally Posted by madformac

Yeah December 10th.... I'm impressed by Seteca's self control with that guy too.. Had it not been inside the gig at the time it could have been a somewhat different reaction from him as it could have been by me... Actions dictated by circumstance..

The guy touched Seteca's shoulder and he shot him a look like "She can't hurt you, but I can." and the guy backed off. LOL He kept asking if I was okay and I said yeah, but I was really bothered by that guy. Glad he shot him that look.

madformac · #23 12-28-2004, 08:36 PM

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Originally Posted by strandinthewind

That is HORRIBLE. No one likes to be or should EVER be touched in an unwanted manner.

I would, however, check with a lawyer or at least with your store's legal dept. regarding their policy, etc. I am unsure if you attacked this guy and beat him to a pulp if you would not also be brought up on charges, when just pushing him away would have sufficed. I do not know the law in England, but it might be worth checking out just so you know.

I've never hit anybody first in my life, I've got a code of letting them go first and then imparting my physical wisdom thereafter.

But it would have been justified to me to have done it this time. Yeah the law would have looked at what I did more severely than what he did, but I've always said don't do anything if you can't deal with the consequences of your actions.. I would been satisfied in my mind regardless of a legal action against me.

The official legal side from the store point of view is that any abuse of staff is not tolerated and charges will be brought if such an action occurs, the sad thing is the police will no doubt not take it too seriously because the UK police system requires an officer to complete by hand 12 pages of paperwork for each incident no matter how minor. They will advise banning him and going no further judging by previous cases in the company.

Nixxxed · #24 12-28-2004, 08:58 PM

Is there any kind of video surveillance in your store? If so, I would at least try to get some type of photo of the guy and pass it around, just to see if anyone else has had this type of encounter with him. If more than one person reports him to the authorities, you have a better chance of stopping him.

Honestly, what are the odds that this is the first time the man has done something like this? I've always understood this type of behavior to be progressive in nature. This time is was just unwanted touching. What about next time, with someone the guy could overpower, or someone who was not a "big enough boy to handle himself" (

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gldstwmn · #25 12-28-2004, 09:52 PM

This is classic molester type behavior. Does your store have closed circuit security cameras? They've probably got it on tape and you should let them know before it is erased. I wonder if the guy is senile or if you were just the nearest thing around he could find to fulfill his compulsion. He most certainly should be reported before he does it to someone who cannot stop him.
I am sorry this happened to you.

SuzeQuze · #26 12-28-2004, 10:29 PM

Hmmm, further evidence of your hotness I think.

Sorry, in bad taste I know.

I had a boss in retail who was such a sleezy guy, he would give you a neck massage when you didn't want it, grab your waist, and other stuff. At first I didn't say anything out of shock. Then I told him not to do it. He must have known the law fairly well anyway (it is only "unwanted" sexual behavior that is illegal) because then he would start to reach out and then say, "Oh yeah, you don't like to be touched." in a really icky way. Bleck. Loss Prevention was really watching him and trying to get girls to talk but no one really would. I was 18 but some of the other girls were quite young (hurl). He wound up being fired for another matter which may have been "overlooked" if he hadn't already been such a skeevy perv (shudder).

So maybe it is something in the air in retail?

I once had someone grope my butt on the train, yuck. I also had an unwanted advance from a family member's husband who was drunk. Eww. Some people are just pervs.

It's good you said something to this guy anyway. I don't agree that hitting him is the answer but it isn't up to me. Good luck with this, I hope that it is resolved. Stupid molesters.

skcin · #27 12-29-2004, 01:43 PM

Did he seem...a bit "off" to you? You know, besides the weird groping thing & all?

Seriously, do you think he's mentally ill? Or retarded? Maybe he has dementia?

I'm not defending this guy at all, it's just that it's SO bizarre. Sorry you had to experience this, hopefully it never happens again - to you or anyone else.

strandinthewind · #28 12-29-2004, 01:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Lux

Hmmm my grade 7 teacher used to stick his hands down our backs, massage our back and heads as we worked and do the girls hairs. I wonder if this qualifies.

Yes, but he told you there was no need to back up and gyrate while he was massaging your lower back

(this is levity for the weak at heart

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