Stevie's weight?

[Cour]

Originally posted by dissention


I think it says a lot about the posters on this board who don't start threads talking about how awful another board is. It's rather childish. Also, take into consideration that some of the people on other boards who bash the Ledge also post here and then say they don't as if they're embarassed.

My point is, people may not always have the most sunny and delightful things to say about the band members, but they're nice enough not to put down people on other boards. People who do that kind of **** show their true colors...and then come back and post as if they never said a thing.

I see Ledge bashing on other boards and agree, what do they suggest the solution is? The Ledge is an open board as most of the other most popular sites are. You can't keep out the people you don't like or the opinions you don't agree with. If someone is happier and finds they like another board more than the Ledge, that's fine, but I don't think it helps things to start threads there bashing this site. Running back to dis this site and bash the people who post here isn't helping things.

It's also pretty sad about some of the people ande who bash this site, call the posters names, and next thing
you know, they're either reading the board or posting on it. Do other people think that some people who frequent this site don't read the other ones, or is the thrill in knowing they do and they're going to read what they wrote and what they said about the people here.

There's room for every board and there's no reason to start saying this site is better than the other one and the people on one site are better or "real fans". Fans are fans and where you post doesn't make you better or worse than anyone else.

[sparky]

Originally posted by GeminiStar03
I have no clue why I joined the Ledge b/c it's just a bunch of BS filled with mostly rude people. I can't believe how bad the Ledge is put down on Burnish! I now know why.

Kim

Huh ? Sorry if you feel that way Kim. I think this is a great place. People are smart, kind, and very open minded. Most of all, people here are an extremely thoughtful group of music lovers. Of course, there are people who stir the pot, but it keeps things from being boring.

The weight thing is really beaten to death.
But I will say something anyway.
People mostly reacted to the weight so much because it was a change. And sometimes change is indicative of a problem. Rapid weight gain can indicate depression, other emotional difficulties, and can be a side effect of prescription drugs. Not always...but it is a red flag. For Stevie it was a drug side effect, and it was a sign that there was a lot wrong in her life. People get concerned, and sometimes for good reason.
Of course our standards of beauty are screwed up. The media sells us an image of female beauty based on women who are genetic anomalies (like, one in a million women is 5'9" and 110 pounds). It's very destructive. It's best ignored, if possible. Isn't so easy for men anymore either (especially us homos). We're supposed to look like models clothed and porn stars unclothed !

Either way, we can all only be the best we can be. And Stevie is pretty damned good. Anyone dissing her hard...if you're over 35, how about posting a picture of you now, and one ten years ago. We'll see how you're holding your aging butt together !

[GeminiStar03]

I've only been reacting this way b/c I know that a lot of people that I know have been put down strongly and I see their reactions and it's sad. I just can imagine what Stevie's face would look like if her fans were putting her down like that. She's a sensitive person and it's only obvious b/c of how she reacts when fans do something messed up--like that fight that made her cry. Anyway, I said that about this board b/c this is the only board that i've found bashing going on. I'm a part of a lot of FM boards and this is the only one that has bashing. I'm sorry to the people that didn't bash Stevie b/c of course i'm not upset with you. The reason on why Stevie is a bit heavier then she was a few years ago, is b/c of her age more then likely. When women hit menopause, things I heard get pretty rough.
Kim

[Cour]

Does "reacting this way" include going to other boards to bash this board and the people who post here? It's a shame that you don't agree with every post and every poster on this site, most people don't agree with everyone and everything that's said. Like Johnny Stew told you, you can either learn to voice your opinion on topics you feel strongly about or ignore some threads that are hot topics. You also have the option of not posting here. This board is open to everyone, but it's not really nice to go back and forth between public boards bashing the people you disagree with and starting threads bashing this site. You're coloring this site and everyone on it in a very nasty way and that's not helping anything.

[GeminiStar03]

First off, i'm not the only one that has ever posted anything - about The Ledge. There are a lot of people on Burnish that don't care for this board as well. I liked it in the begining but when someone starts talking bad and--YES I KNOW THAT THEY CAN SAY WHATEVER THE F*CK THEY WANT! Anyway, it was a shock to me to read that someone would call Stevie gross...It's just crap. By the way, i'm a younger person so I have a tendency to go off and blow up in others faces.
Kim

[Cour]

Originally posted by GeminiStar03
First off, i'm not the only one that has ever posted anything - about The Ledge. There are a lot of people on Burnish that don't care for this board as well. I liked it in the begining but when someone starts talking bad and--YES I KNOW THAT THEY CAN SAY WHATEVER THE F*CK THEY WANT! Anyway, it was a shock to me to read that someone would call Stevie gross...It's just crap. By the way, i'm a younger person so I have a tendency to go off and blow up in others faces.
Kim

Well, that was nice. I don't believe anyone said that you were the only one who bashed this board on another site. Did it ever occur to you that some people here might not agree with or like everyone on other sites? Thanks for cursing at us and since we have a lot of younger people on this site who don't act the way you're acting now, you don't get off the hook for making the " i'm a younger person so I have a tendency to go off and blow up in others faces" Sorry, we have a lot of younger people here who don't post the way you are and you're giving them a bad rap. You like generalizations, huh?

Okay, we get it, someone called Stevie gross and you don't like it. Life, it's a bitch.

[Gypsy-Rhiannon]

Originally posted by GeminiStar03
First off, i'm not the only one that has ever posted anything - about The Ledge. There are a lot of people on Burnish that don't care for this board as well. I liked it in the begining but when someone starts talking bad and--YES I KNOW THAT THEY CAN SAY WHATEVER THE F*CK THEY WANT! Anyway, it was a shock to me to read that someone would call Stevie gross...It's just crap. By the way, i'm a younger person so I have a tendency to go off and blow up in others faces.
Kim

Kim... you need to chill. I hate it when people talk about Stevie's weight, I have spent most of my adult life losing and gaining weight. BUt there are tons of other threads to post on all over the ledge boards. I said my piece on this issue and then that was enough for me. This thread would die if we could all leave it alone. There will always be people who want to bash Stevie - just let them get on with it.

BTW... I also post on burnish and I am really starting to hate this 'them and us' mentality.

Pip

[diamondsnake]

Originally posted by GeminiStar03
First off, i'm not the only one that has ever posted anything - about The Ledge. There are a lot of people on Burnish that don't care for this board as well. I liked it in the begining but when someone starts talking bad and--YES I KNOW THAT THEY CAN SAY WHATEVER THE F*CK THEY WANT! Anyway, it was a shock to me to read that someone would call Stevie gross...It's just crap. By the way, i'm a younger person so I have a tendency to go off and blow up in others faces.
Kim

I hardly think the fact that you are a "younger person" means that you have the right to "blow up in others faces". I am only 15 and while I started this thread, I have yet to "blow up in others faces" or join in on this craziness....

[Gypsy-Rhiannon]

Originally posted by GeminiStar03
Listen, I only became harsh b/c when someone talks about somebody that I care about--it pisses me off. As a girl that has been picked on for her weight when I was young, that was something that was not easy to deal with. I just know that if someone really was a fan of Stevie's, what would it matter how much she weighed? I'm not saying that there can't be freedom of speech, i was just saying that i think it's rude to pick on someone in that way and u never know if Stevie would ever come on here. I know a lot of stars like to check out the boards and see what their fans are satisfied with and what not...This has just gotten too out of hand...

Kim

I know this is a whole different issue but you talk about Stevie being bothered about reading something like this. Do you not think it would bother her to read some of the 'fan fiction' that is posted on the net? I'm sure Stevie could care less about any of this.

That said this needs to stop. Stevie is beautiful whatever her weight. IT really isn't an issue to me. And lets quit with bashing the ledge on other boards.


Pip

[PenguinHead]

With regard to people picking on Stevie for her weight.....I've scanned this very long thread several times. Among dozens of posts, I've seen very little "picking and bashing." Somehow just broaching the subject of weight is now equal to "picking and bashing." As I said before, obviously for some Ledgies this is such a sensitive subject, that all logic and reason have gone out the window. Save your issues for a therapy session. This place isn't a psychciatry office...but I'm beginning to think it's mental ward.

[gypsysara]

Originally posted by PenguinHead
This place isn't a psychciatry office...but I'm beginning to think it's mental ward.

[GeminiStar03]

[PenguinHead]

Hey, here's an idea: Let's ban the word "bash" from this board!