Suicide is not the answer - Page 3

rubytuesday · #31 02-23-2009, 12:58 AM

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Originally Posted by jannieC

I am posting this because I know there are a lot of teenagers on this board. My 15 year old niece hung herself last night. Teenage suicide is alarmingly prevalent. Please understand that there are alternatives. My family is totally shocked and devastated.

OMG I just saw this today. Thats horrific. not that being older would be better but its so young too. A 14 year old did that at my school. She jumped off the top of one of the buildings in the middle of the night. I sometimes think that she would be nearly 30 now. Her parents didn't thinkthey abandoned her cause they sent her across the world to one of the best schools (she was from Japan) but to be shipped off to the other side of the world when you dont speak the language well and when you're so young and by yourself and can't fit into the school or even the country its kind of like the same thing. They blamed the school saying she was so smart but I think they were just really stupid. She wasn't related to me or a friend of mine so its not the same like that but even not really knowing them it was horrible, I remember the next day and everyone from that house having to bunk up in other houses cause it was an aweful scene and some girls saying they heard something in the night. It must be so much more awful when its someone closer to you. I'll pray that those who were her friends are coping.

Zombie · #32 02-23-2009, 03:17 AM

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Originally Posted by jannieC

Oh no, I didn't think you were directing that at me; I was trying to back up what you had said. No worries.

Okay, cookie.

I just didn't want to add any extra nonsense to your current burdens.

One of my closest friends shot himself when we were 16, and he had gone OFF his meds when he did it. When he was on them, he was okay - not perfect, but who is, you know? - but when he was on them, he was holding down the fort. And then one day, he was gone, and we found he'd secretly quit taking them for a while.

Mental health is such a tangled maze.

Sahara · #33 02-25-2009, 08:24 AM

I'm so sorry to hear your sad news, Jannie

Praying for you and your family

The Catdancer · #34 02-25-2009, 09:06 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss. Stay strong!!!!

Gypsy-Rhiannon · #35 03-01-2009, 05:24 PM

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Originally Posted by jannieC

I am posting this because I know there are a lot of teenagers on this board. My 15 year old niece hung herself last night. Teenage suicide is alarmingly prevalent. Please understand that there are alternatives. My family is totally shocked and devastated.

Oh my goodness. I have only just read this. I'm so terribly sorry

AliceLover · #36 03-01-2009, 06:00 PM

Jannie...I am so sorry. That is so terrible! Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

trackaghost · #37 03-01-2009, 07:07 PM

I'm really sorry Jannie. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

jannieC · #38 03-01-2009, 09:12 PM

My family is okay; we were not as close with McKanna as her maternal family was, but I am still feeling the loss of her. Here is a picture of us a few months ago (I was on very little sleep- our baby was about a month old then-lol).

It's hard to believe that she is gone. The main reason I have shared all of this here is to let others know that it's totally okay to get help when you know you are not doing well. McKanna's death, in my opinion, was impulsive. However, she must have been feeling pain for a long time and needed help.

And on a happier note:

iamnotafraid · #39 03-07-2009, 06:09 AM

JannieC, I'm sorry for your family's loss.

gldstwmn · #40 03-07-2009, 11:27 AM

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I'll just chime in and say that as a licensed therapist and mental health professional, I thoroughly believe in psychiatric medication. I can't stress that enough.

The right meds have been lifesavers for many. Unfortunately the diagnosis is the hard part. It's not always easy to find the right meds to fit the person. Sometimes it's a frustrating hit and miss procedure.

Angel69 · #41 03-07-2009, 07:05 PM

So very sad. My thoughts are with you and your family.

vivfox · #42 03-08-2009, 02:05 PM

Jannie, I am so sorry for your loss. My heart truly goes out to you and your family. Eleven years ago the only man I ever loved ended his life the same way. I know how devistated you must feel.

michelle2677 · #43 03-13-2009, 03:17 PM

i'm so sorry for your loss, jannie. suicide is definitely not the answer, even though i won't lie and say i've never considered it. i can't imagine what your family is going through. my prayers are with you.

GODDESS6 · #44 03-13-2009, 03:27 PM

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Originally Posted by jannieC

My family is okay; we were not as close with McKanna as her maternal family was, but I am still feeling the loss of her. Here is a picture of us a few months ago (I was on very little sleep- our baby was about a month old then-lol).

It's hard to believe that she is gone. The main reason I have shared all of this here is to let others know that it's totally okay to get help when you know you are not doing well. McKanna's death, in my opinion, was impulsive. However, she must have been feeling pain for a long time and needed help.

And on a happier note:

what a great happier note, jannie she is beautiful~

MoonWaterPoet · #45 03-17-2009, 08:49 PM

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Originally Posted by jannieC

I am posting this because I know there are a lot of teenagers on this board. My 15 year old niece hung herself last night. Teenage suicide is alarmingly prevalent. Please understand that there are alternatives. My family is totally shocked and devastated.

Jannie ~

I am So Very Sorry to hear about your niece. I can so relate to how you and your family are feeling right now. My little brother Joey, committed suicide 5 and a half years ago, in November 26th 2003... the day before Thanksgiving. He hung his self too, and had tried to attempt it a year earlier. One of the last times I saw him alive, was when he and I went to see Fleetwood Mac ~ in Dallas... on the SYW tour July 03'... He was my concert-going-with buddy, (which is why I am having trouble going to see Fleetwood Mac ~ on this new tour. The first 2 years after his suicide I was in a total fog, I was the closest to him in my family... The first 3 years I stayed drunk out of my head, it was the only way I could deal with it... I almost allowed his suicide to destroy me... But I have been in grief counseling for the past year, and it has helped so much. If I may offer you some advice for you and your niece's family, try and find a 'survivors of suicide' support group, and grief counseling. The first 4 years of healing and grieving will be the hardest... the pain never goes away, but it does get better... and writing a journal is very helpful too... And when you get to the anger stage of grieving, go to a yard sale and buy a bunch of mis-matched dishes... take them home and break them outside in a garbage can, (wearing goggles of course)...
I will keep you and your nieces family in my thoughts and prayers...

Donnie Wayne ~