TMI thread. Discussion of sensitive ADULT issues/triggers. Enter with awareness!

tbaker3 · #1 04-15-2011, 06:37 PM

Actually. No. I've got my own.

So I just starting seeing this guy within the last 2 weeks. We hung out a couple of times with friends (how we met) and now we've been on a couple of dates.

I've never been too terribly good at NOT sleeping with people right away, but I'm trying this whole "not being a ho" thing...

When would be a not whory/but not prudish time to "get it in?"

Should it be measured in weeks/months (god I hope not months) or number of dates?

For someone who is great at giving people advice, I am clueless about how to run my own...

fumidesigns · #2 04-15-2011, 06:42 PM

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Originally Posted by tbaker3

Actually. No. I've got my own.

So I just starting seeing this guy within the last 2 weeks. We hung out a couple of times with friends (how we met) and now we've been on a couple of dates.

I've never been too terribly good at NOT sleeping with people right away, but I'm trying this whole "not being a ho" thing...

When would be a not whory/but not prudish time to "get it in?"

Should it be measured in weeks/months (god I hope not months) or number of dates?

For someone who is great at giving people advice, I am clueless about how to run my own...

i soooooooooooo appreciate your realness! imo u should go with what you feel! if you're ready right now for some d*ck and balls.......go for it. the only one defining your "ho'dom" is YOU my dear! you're a grown ass woman right? do da damn thang! as long as you TAKE CARE OF YOUR BITNESS so you can stick around w/ us and rock out..............i say get dat nut.

*drops mic*

tbaker3 · #3 04-15-2011, 07:05 PM

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Originally Posted by fumidesigns

i soooooooooooo appreciate your realness! imo u should go with what you feel! if you're ready right now for some d*ck and balls.......go for it. the only one defining your "ho'dom" is YOU my dear! you're a grown ass woman right? do da damn thang! as long as you TAKE CARE OF YOUR BITNESS so you can stick around w/ us and rock out..............i say get dat nut.

*drops mic*

Well. I'm a grown ass man, but whatevs. And I find that if you get to bin-ness right away, you neglect actually getting to know eachother... And I'm totally guilty of all the hit its and quit its. But, like the song says, "I'm getting older too." And things that were alright when I was in the earlier part of my 20's, aren't really right now at 26. I do NOT know how to be a grown up.

fumidesigns · #4 04-15-2011, 07:06 PM

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Originally Posted by tbaker3

Well. I'm a grown ass man, but whatevs. And I find that if you get to bin-ness right away, you neglect actually getting to know eachother... And I'm totally guilty of all the hit its and quit its. But, like the song says, "I'm getting older too." And things that were alright when I was in the earlier part of my 20's, aren't really right now at 26. I do NOT know how to be a grown up.

ummmmmmmmmmm oops sorry! disregard.............

tbaker3 · #5 04-15-2011, 07:07 PM

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Originally Posted by fumidesigns

ummmmmmmmmmm oops sorry! disregard.............

bahaha...disregarded

louielouie2000 · #6 04-15-2011, 07:08 PM

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Originally Posted by fumidesigns

i soooooooooooo appreciate your realness! imo u should go with what you feel! if you're ready right now for some d*ck and balls.......go for it. the only one defining your "ho'dom" is YOU my dear! you're a grown ass woman right? do da damn thang! as long as you TAKE CARE OF YOUR BITNESS so you can stick around w/ us and rock out..............i say get dat nut.

*drops mic*

I second this!

I've always jumped into sex in dating whenever the moment calls for it. That can be on the first date, or it can be after a couple of months (though I rarely have that kind of self control

). My whole thing with dating is just be you!

And if you're a sexual person, just lay it right out there! Sexual compatibility is a pretty big make or break thing in a relationship, too... so In my opinion it's best to test those waters sooner than later

.

...and report back to us when you've crossed that bridge with your new beau, tbaker3!

fumidesigns · #7 04-15-2011, 07:09 PM

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Originally Posted by louielouie2000

I second this!

I've always jumped into sex in dating whenever the moment calls for it. That can be on the first date, or it can be after a couple of months (though I rarely have that kind of self control

). My whole thing with dating is just be you!

And if you're a sexual person, just lay it right out there! Sexual compatibility is a pretty big make or break thing in a relationship, too... so In my opinion it's best to test those waters sooner than later

.

...and report back to us when you've crossed that bridge with your new beau, tbaker3!

seeeeeeeeeeeeeeee louie is a guy and he agrees w/ me! *does happy dance* lol

tbaker3 · #8 04-15-2011, 07:12 PM

then I should have gotten it in, like, 5 DAYS ago... I need to catch up. Full report back tomorrow

fumidesigns · #9 04-15-2011, 07:13 PM

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Originally Posted by tbaker3

then I should have gotten it in, like, 5 DAYS ago... I need to catch up. Full report back tomorrow

oooooooooooooooooooooooow! strap it up and get it in baby!

HomerMcvie · #10 04-15-2011, 07:19 PM

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Originally Posted by louielouie2000

I second this!

I've always jumped into sex in dating whenever the moment calls for it. That can be on the first date, or it can be after a couple of months (though I rarely have that kind of self control

). My whole thing with dating is just be you!

And if you're a sexual person, just lay it right out there! Sexual compatibility is a pretty big make or break thing in a relationship, too... so In my opinion it's best to test those waters sooner than later

.

I completely agree, on the sooner than later. Wait a couple of months, and it's almost like you're too good of friends, and it's awkward(I think it always works like this for me, because I'm very easy to get to know, so friendships happen very quickly, for me). I think by the 3rd date, it needs to happen, or it might be too late!
Just do it!

fumidesigns · #11 04-15-2011, 07:23 PM

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Originally Posted by HomerMcvie

I completely agree, on the sooner than later. Wait a couple of months, and it's almost like you're too good of friends, and it's awkward(I think it always works like this for me, because I'm very easy to get to know, so friendships happen very quickly, for me). I think by the 3rd date, it needs to happen, or it might be too late!
Just do it!

ok that's 3 saying "get it in"

just be you..........