I fee like poo.

[estranged4life]

Originally Posted by DrummerDeanna

Well I'm sure I did a pretty good job pissing her off this morning. I stopped short of using one of my favorite lines, "get off the cross honey, someone needs the wood!"

Still I am taking a break from her. I am generally not a fan of not talking to someone when mad, I like to work things out - but in this case it's pretty hard and almost fruitless as she doesn't listen or retain.

when I'm pissed I won't speak...I do however, shoot laser beams from my eyes, hunt down people name Sara Connor, tear skin from my exo-skeleton and say in a bad Austrian accent "I'll be Back".

As for pissing my Mom off, I mastered it since I am the youngest child and was closest to my Mom. So I easily knew how to push her buttons, and when I saw the opportunity to push those buttons ya damn well better believe I took it...Maybe somewhat over-the-top, but it accomplished the message I wanted to send.

[SuzeQuze]

Sh*t Deanna, your mother is so out of line. You're so horrible because you didn't drive a whole day to see her? Well, if she were speaking to your sister you could've met halfway, at her house. Or, if she really wanted to see you and not just be vindictive she could have driven to your sister's town and gotten a motel room.

Seriously, you can't drive 12 hours on a weekend, or however long it is. There just isn't time! And who cares what she says to her friends, they must know she's loopy! Sorry, but she's just being totally irrational.

I hate when my mother gets crazy, it usually has to do with my father who she is divorced from, and I have to repeat "Take it up with him." over and over. It still doesn't get through.

Taking a break is a perfect idea, and maybe not a letter but journal-writing, and then talk when you're ready. I hate this manipulative guilt-trip BS.

[skcin]

The more I read, it sounds like your mom's kind of mental. Seriously. You can only do so much. Don't let her guilt you, and don't be hard on youself.

[SuzeQuze]

Originally Posted by skcin

The more I read, it sounds like your mom's kind of mental. Seriously. You can only do so much. Don't let her guilt you, and don't be hard on youself.

I really wish you would say what you think and stop beating around the bush!

[michelle2677]

I'm sorry you had a bad day. I hope things are starting to look up for you!!! hang in there. Family conflict is THE.WORST.

[DrummerDeanna]

Originally Posted by skcin

The more I read, it sounds like your mom's kind of mental. Seriously. You can only do so much. Don't let her guilt you, and don't be hard on youself.

Oh she totally is Me and my sister have learned that - my sister sooner than I. It's not so much mental as clueless, selfish and well there is an Espinosa dumbening gene...my sister and I are frightened to death of it

Anyway - yeah - the whole thing is ****ty....I'm going to go home and drink.

[SuzeQuze]

Originally Posted by estranged4life

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As for pissing my Mom off, I mastered it since I am the youngest child and was closest to my Mom. So I easily knew how to push her buttons, and when I saw the opportunity to push those buttons ya damn well better believe I took it...Maybe somewhat over-the-top, but it accomplished the message I wanted to send.

I did this to my Mom when I was in college cuz with my psych classes I was getting a little big for my britches. But it ultimately made me feel terrible to win all the time so I stopped - finally accepting her for the mad woman she is.