Appropriate or Not?

[amber]

Originally Posted by GateandGarden

That was incredibly inappropriate. I hate it when professors get away with saying crap like that in class.

Oh, good.
He's a good teacher, and a nice man, but that was bad.
I have a "thing" about people judging other people on their sexual activities, and using words like "whore" and "skank". Which actually don't describe any personality qualities of a person, but connotes the person is bad based only on their sexual partnerships. Hate.
On the upside, some girl asked me if I worked in a Family Law office b/c it seemed from my comments and stuff that I knew a lot about it. Oh, and she worked in a Family Law office. So, I guess I don't sound dumb in class....
I was going to say something to the prof., but I chickened out. Sigh.
Anyway, it's weird, because of course he is very liberal in general. I've noticed, though, that lots of liberal people still haven't shed these old standards of judgement. It's too bad.

[GypsySorcerer]

Yeah, not very cool. Totally inappropriate, and I loathe the sexual double standard that still exists.

[Janet]

I don't think that was appropriate. Using such strong words like that was not necesarry.

I would go as far as saying something to this teacher...not cool.

[amber]

Originally Posted by Janet

I don't think that was appropriate. Using such strong words like that was not necesarry.

I would go as far as saying something to this teacher...not cool.

Yeah. Again, I chickened.
I was thinking of saying something next week, but the moment will be lost....

[David]

Originally Posted by amber

Yeah. Again, I chickened.
I was thinking of saying something next week, but the moment will be lost....

I don't think chiding this teacher is the best route. I think a comeback right in class, something like: "Two guys in a week? What a crime ... especially if she had five guys knocking at her door."

[amber]

Originally Posted by David

I don't think chiding this teacher is the best route. I think a comeback right in class, something like: "Two guys in a week? What a crime ... especially if she had five guys knocking at her door."

Yeah. Exactly.
It was hard to formulate a snappy comeback at the time, because he was very serious and disgusted about the whole thing. Passionate, if you will.
And I'm not that good at that, anyways. Sigh. I think I only just had a dirty look on my face the rest of the class. Hardly maturely effective. But I couldn't help it...
Wait - isn't a comeback chiding? Chiding is teasing, kind of, right? Sooo...wouldn't a snappy comeback have been chidulous?
I actually thought that saying something maturely and calmly and logically and unemotionally after class would have been the best way. If i had been capable of that, i probably would have done so. (although, in theory, we should all probably applaud any diplomacy I might be able to manage.)

To bad you were not there.
Alas, here was me:

[David]

Originally Posted by amber

To bad you were not there.

I know! We could have done some Stevie karaoke afterward & had a few drinks!

Alas, here was me:

That looks just like the chickens they killed yesterday on the Ted Nugent show!

[sparky]

Sounds like a good opportunity for discussion. Judgemental and Inappropriate ? Hmmm.

He is probably being a bit cavalier in letting his attitudes spill over into his teaching. What do his opinions have to do with the point he was trying to make ?

I don't know that I would call anyone a whore for sleeping with two people in a week, but I would call some who had unprotected sex with two people in a week an idiot. Certainly not a whore. Calling it gross is probably in the eye of the beholder.

The word judgemental is a bit overused. We're all judgemental. Thankfully. Without judgement we would be aimless.

[amber]

Originally Posted by sparky

Sounds like a good opportunity for discussion. Judgemental and Inappropriate ? Hmmm.

He is probably being a bit cavalier in letting his attitudes spill over into his teaching. What do his opinions have to do with the point he was trying to make ?

I don't know that I would call anyone a whore for sleeping with two people in a week, but I would call some who had unprotected sex with two people in a week an idiot. Certainly not a whore. Calling it gross is probably in the eye of the beholder.

The word judgemental is a bit overused. We're all judgemental. Thankfully. Without judgement we would be aimless.

Technically, I didn't use the word judgemental. Of course we all are. But this one is stupid.
Gross is in the eye of the beholder. I still think it's bad to say in that situation. He often lets his views spill over, but no others have been offensive... And you know I'm not the kind of person that thinks many things are inappropriate.
And calling someone an Idiot for doing what you said is acceptable to me. (btw, the story "The Idiot" by Dostoevsky is good)
I don't think his judgement or his venue was appropriate in this case. But then, like I said, I have a "thing". And it's not because I'm a ho, it's because I think it's wrong. Always have. Have never, ever, ever, even thought of using/judging people about that. There are so many more relevant things to judge people about.

[Karlie]

That's very inappropriate. Teachers shouldn't be allowed to say stuff like that.

[tynan88]

I found that a lot of my teachers make comments, but I don't tend to worry about them because I agree...I think there is a lot of double standards in what is appropriate to discuss in class or not...but that's just my opinion, I just generally find that it is often the more liberal teachers willing to talk their opinions up.

[amber]

Originally Posted by tynan88

I found that a lot of my teachers make comments, but I don't tend to worry about them because I agree...I think there is a lot of double standards in what is appropriate to discuss in class or not...but that's just my opinion, I just generally find that it is often the more liberal teachers willing to talk their opinions up.

I usually agree, too. And I hardly ever find anything inappropriate. And almost everyone is liberal where I live.
This one was different, though.
And I would submit that a truly liberal teacher shouldn't have that particular judgement.
But I'm not going to die or anything. I probably will say something, though, I'm sure he'll appreciate my honest feedback.... Or maybe not. We'll see.


Hi, Tynan! long time no see!

[tynan88]

Yer Amber, I was actually in a car crash last week and have been spending most of time in the Stevie forum.

Good to talk to you