You look tired

[gldstwmn]

Originally Posted by reebokandlace

I was trying to be supportive. Did it come across wrong? -- sorry...

No, I didn't mean you. I just meant people in general.

[amber]

Suze - you should have used some snappy retort.
But don't feel bad. About 6 days ago I noticed that my dark circles have increased somewhat dramatically. And not in a sexy way. More like in a malnourished looking way.
I have no doubt you look fine.
Also, I hate when people say that.

[ragandbone]

Coworkers have said this to me, when I am not wearing eye makeup. It so rarely sounds like the person has concern - more like Diss said, a way of saying you look like ****.

The only time that comment would be alright with me is if it is followed by an offer of:
a day off
some tea
a pillow

Hey - there's a retort:
"You look tired today."
"I am tired. Could you get me a pillow?"

The other unwelcome comment I have always hated is:
"Smile" it is almost always uttered as a command, and from a stranger. I
don't know any unmedicated people who walk around with smiles on their faces all day

p.s. I thought your thread was going to be about all of us late-night ledgies.

[amber]

Originally Posted by ragandbone

"You look tired today."
"I am tired. Could you get me a pillow?"

Originally Posted by ragandbone

The other unwelcome comment I have always hated is:
"Smile" it is almost always uttered as a command, and from a stranger. I
don't know any unmedicated people who walk around with smiles on their faces all day

That comment is the bane of my existence and just reading it sends me into a rage - imagine how I feel when people say it to me. And I must have heard it 4-5000 times by now.

[Raeven Skye]

i mostly get the tired comment from my Mom...well, yes, Mom, I DO look tired: I work full time..take classes...and am mom to all of these animals, and an adult male....i supposed i AM tired..zzzzzzzz

[ragandbone]

Originally Posted by amber

That comment is the bane of my existence and just reading it sends me into a rage - imagine how I feel when people say it to me. And I must have heard it 4-5000 times by now.

Yep. I like to think when I am walking, and sometimes what I am thinking makes me smile, and sometimes it makes me frown. I am happy to smile at someone who smiles at me (if they aren't creepy) but I don't think it's like, my reponsibility or something.

Once I got into a yelling match with a teenage hippie on Haight st, 1987. He just picked the wrong day: I was living on $5 a week for food, in a sublet just off the Haight, trying to find a job, and figure out how to stay in SF, oh yes, and my car had just been towed. So, he said, "smile" and I kept walking, and then I swung around, and asked him how many men he had commanded to "smile" that morning. I told him he wasn't being very helpful, and why didn't he tell me something funny if he wanted me to smile.

It kind of shook him out of his happy-go-lucky smoke-a-doob, dance-to-Jerry, hold-a-puppy mode. So, then he called me a Bitch, and he told me I needed to get laid more. (At that point in my life he couldn't have been more wrong, "getting laid" was not the problem) ;^) I really bummed him out. Oh well. [grumble grumble, bah humbug] that'll teach 'em.

[reebokandlace]

Originally Posted by ragandbone

It kind of shook him out of his happy-go-lucky smoke-a-doob, dance-to-Jerry, hold-a-puppy mode.

That. my friend. was funny as hell.... PRICELESS.!!! Bless your soul, I needed to laugh til I cried.

[SuzeQuze]

I never smiled as a child and one of the lunch ladies used to call me Smiley. It bothered me at first but then I realized she was trying to be warm and it was pretty miraculous anyone noticed me at all.

Yes, my day is better. I finished work at about 4:30 and I ain't done nothin since and am going to bed soon. I watched Igby Goes Down, that poor little bastard. My Mufy is my snuggle bunny because my roommate is away so that is sweet.

Amber I was thinking of you yesterday because I was in the kitchen at work getting coffee and a coworker was there and he said, "So, you're getting coffee?" I know how much you love when someone states the obvious.