Pointless Conversations

[ragandbone]

Originally Posted by amber

My mom is crazy too, but astonishingly astute, and not at all vague, in fact the opposite. It's gross. She's really negative, though, which pisses me off. She'll call me and be like "well, I wish you had finished school earlier, now that you are thirty you probably won't be able to get a job"
Yes, it's magical.

and then she tells me about bunches of stuff that is dangerous - like the place I live, and how she never wants to drive across that bridge again, and earthquakes, and blah.

It is magical.
My mother combines the vague and the negative, or rather she embeds the negative in the vague. I will tell her something her grandson did at the park, and she will say
"Oooh, I worry about Leo" (my son) but she won't give me the details of the worry when pressed, or how they relate to the park anecdote. Them, moments later, she might drop in an awful story from the news about a freak accident, complete with grisly details.

I got the ..."wish you had finished school earlier" for years. It's a little maddening, because, of course, you can't fix that one, even with a degree. The one negative thing my mother does that I have caught myself doing with my son, (and which I must stop doing) is that she broadcasts her concerns over my shortcomings. When I did poorly in Algebra, even while sailing through honors science and English courses, she told just about everyone she knew. Of course, my 2 year old is not in Algebra, but I have caught myself telling my friends that I am concerned about him getting pushed, or that he is short for his age, and I have done this while he is in the room. Noooo!