What should I do/rant

amber · #1 08-16-2005, 01:29 PM

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Originally Posted by DrummerDeanna

Another example: we were talking about an upcoming event and I said, "Yeah so and so said there would be a lot of familiar faces there."

the girl I don't like said, "I don't know what that means."

I stopped and was like.."ummm..that there will be lots of people we're familiar with there..."

weird.

Then there is the inability to take and follow directions (these things lead me to believe there must be a disability at play) - I gave her directions to my house once and I kid you not - I said, "Take a left on Genesee Park Boulevard" and she was like, "ok...so I take a right on Genesee STreet?" WTF!?!

So she got totally lost - and apparently went up and down the street I live on knocking on EVERY door until she found mine...why she could walk up to people's houses and KNOCK _ but not walk up and look for numbers is beyond me

Ok - so anyway I'm done. I'm walking away.

oh, that's mean, but good lord....

BTFLCHLD · #2 08-16-2005, 01:32 PM

youre a real heartbreaker deanna...
cant you see she is in love w/you?

SuzeQuze · #3 08-16-2005, 02:14 PM

Bless your heart, Deanna, good lord! You gotta cut her loose before you really hurt her and hate yourself for it. Sounds like you've already come to that conclusion though. I hate having to cut off friendships, I am such a loyal person but at times it has been to my own detriment. No more!

Also, I wouldn't say anything to her. Just avoid, avoid, avoid. I once broke off a dating relationship very honestly and it went very poorly. He tried to talk me out of everything I said and I wound up feeling like a turd. It was horrible, I should have done it over email or something since we didn't have a relationship or anything. I was just trying to do the right thing or something. I won't ever do that again.

DrummerDeanna · #4 08-16-2005, 03:59 PM

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Originally Posted by SuzeQuze

Bless your heart, Deanna, good lord! You gotta cut her loose before you really hurt her and hate yourself for it. Sounds like you've already come to that conclusion though. I hate having to cut off friendships, I am such a loyal person but at times it has been to my own detriment. No more!

Also, I wouldn't say anything to her. Just avoid, avoid, avoid. I once broke off a dating relationship very honestly and it went very poorly. He tried to talk me out of everything I said and I wound up feeling like a turd. It was horrible, I should have done it over email or something since we didn't have a relationship or anything. I was just trying to do the right thing or something. I won't ever do that again.

Wow! I've never had anyone try to talk me out of a breakup - well except the last friend I friend-dumped. BUT we're friend again

She did change a lot (as did I) since our friend break-up and we're really far away from each other now which is great - But I have/had way more invested in that person than I do in current dumb girl.

Yeah - I'm not going to say anything - but should I if she asks??

See - when I went to NM in June I left her house/pet sitting beacuse she was out of work and really really needed the money...

Now the dog was alive when I returned and my apartment hadn't been burned down -but her complete lack of common sense left several things needing to be straightened out...

THEN THEN I'm talking to a friend, Jason and I said something about this girl - and he was like, "Oh so you heard about Saturday then." And I said, "no...what?" And he was like.."Um...oh. Uh - nevermind. Let *name protected* tell you." But I pried it out of him..

SHe TOTALLY broke my computer - didn't tell me - and called him to come fix it

urg.

Anwyay - last weekend she brought that up again and asked if I was still mad at her (I've been acting quite aloof as mentioned) and i was like.."oh I didn't even remember that..." I wanted to say, "No - I'm not mad I just can't stand you." But didn't

Ok....see? This bitching helps

Anyway - I just called friend I like and told her I'm not going to dinner this week

She's coming over on Friday - I'll tell her why then.

BTFLCHLD · #5 08-16-2005, 04:04 PM

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Originally Posted by DrummerDeanna

I wanted to say, "No - I'm not mad I just can't stand you." But didn't

Ok....see? This bitching helps

good!
maybe a lesson in all of this is say what you really want to say when you want to say it...
dont hold back deanna else youve got suckups that fall for your sweetways (however unintentional)

skcin · #6 08-16-2005, 04:05 PM

If girl asks, I'd be like "you know, no offense or anything, but we just don't seem to click." Hopefully that'll do it.

But she'll probably say "I don't get it." In which case you're screwed.

DrummerDeanna · #7 08-16-2005, 04:07 PM

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Originally Posted by skcin

If girl asks, I'd be like "you know, no offense or anything, but we just don't seem to click." Hopefully that'll do it.

But she'll probably say "I don't get it." In which case you're screwed.

Me: Um we're just not clicking, you know?
Girl: *blank stare* I don't know what that means...
Me: It means I want you to die.

I'm TOTALLY kidding...I don't want her to die...but see??? The more I hang around with her/don't cut ties - the worse I seem to get in terms of meanness...I hate it...I'm really not that mean...

amber · #8 08-16-2005, 04:11 PM

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Originally Posted by DrummerDeanna

Girl: *blank stare* I don't know what that means...
Me: It means I want you to die.

skcin · #9 08-16-2005, 04:21 PM

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Originally Posted by DrummerDeanna

Me: Um we're just not clicking, you know?
Girl: *blank stare* I don't know what that means...
Me: It means I want you to die.

I think I just peed my pants laughing.

SuzeQuze · #10 08-16-2005, 05:00 PM

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Originally Posted by DrummerDeanna

Me: Um we're just not clicking, you know?
Girl: *blank stare* I don't know what that means...
Me: It means I want you to die.

I'm TOTALLY kidding...I don't want her to die...but see??? The more I hang around with her/don't cut ties - the worse I seem to get in terms of meanness...I hate it...I'm really not that mean...

Your response could be, "You don't have to get it, but I'm out, peace sista."

If she does push harder say something like, "When I am around you I get irritable and angry and I don't like myself when I get like that." That makes it about you. If she still pushes just walk away. Seriously, she's gotta get it at some point.

amber · #11 08-16-2005, 04:10 PM

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Originally Posted by skcin

If girl asks, I'd be like "you know, no offense or anything, but we just don't seem to click." Hopefully that'll do it.

But she'll probably say "I don't get it." In which case you're screwed.

"I don't know what that means"

great, now I hate her.

DrummerDeanna · #12 08-16-2005, 04:04 PM

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Originally Posted by BTFLCHLD

youre a real heartbreaker deanna...
cant you see she is in love w/you?

umm...ha - you're joking I do hope

Actually she's quite religious...doesn't agree with "the gays"

amber · #13 08-16-2005, 04:06 PM

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Originally Posted by DrummerDeanna

umm...ha - you're joking I do hope

Actually she's quite religious...doesn't agree with "the gays"

Tell her you're bi, maybe she will break up with you.
what a moron, seriously.

DrummerDeanna · #14 08-16-2005, 04:11 PM

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Originally Posted by amber

Tell her you're bi, maybe she will break up with you.
what a moron, seriously.

actually I haven't come out and said I'm bi - but I always do this passive agressive talk about issues I KNOW she's totally uncomfortable with...

And the 3rd girl is totally into the conversations too

So we've had very colorful sex talks with religo just sitting there uncomfortable...

Then I'll tell crazy stories about my gay friends - and my slut friend Matthew who is I'm sure trying to sleep with every man in the Metro DC area....and he was a stripper AND he was trying to break into the adult film business

The best convos are when my and other girl talk about how important a woman's right to chose is and about the sad state of the world/government - she usually sits there quietly.