Need some advice about toxic friendship.

[SuzeQuze]

Originally Posted by CelticGypsy

This friend has done this before to me. She tends to drift away from family and friends when she is faced with personal stress or problems. I did ask her if I did anything wrong to upset her. She says I haven't. I would like to be her friend again, someday, but she has a few personal problems she needs to work on. It has been like a roller coaster ride this past year dealing with her. It is better for me to just let her try and work things out for herself for now. The gifts are simple things like family photos, books and letters that I would like to keep in case this friendship can be saved.

She may even have already changed her mind about wanting them back, that's such a silly thing to do. You could always say you want to keep the stuff because you'll always cherish the friendship you once had, which includes these momentos of it.

[Janet]

I had a "friend" who I parted ways with for many reasons.

In our short friendship, she gave me an old tv. She usually tried to buy my friendship, so one day, soon after my tv broke, she plopped an old one in my living room. I offered to pay but she said no, that it was old but I could have it until I got something better.

After the friendship ended, she asked for it back!

I was so angry but I decided , after everyone told me so, to keep it.

KEEP IT, A GIFT IS A GIFT.