The Ledge

Go Back   The Ledge > Main Forums > Chit Chat
User Name
Password
Register FAQ Members List Calendar Mark Forums Read


Make the Ads Go Away! Click here.
Closed Thread
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #1  
Old 07-22-2016, 04:01 PM
iamnotafraid iamnotafraid is offline
Addicted Ledgie
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Posts: 4,850
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by SisterNightroad View Post
Well, that depends from person to person. But if I were you I wouldn't ask your wife, she could get suspicious.
My wife Candice Swanepoel (she didn't take my last name) is
very secure in our relationship. No suspicions.

The cheating thing, I was asking you. None of this person
to person thing.
.
  #2  
Old 07-22-2016, 04:30 PM
SisterNightroad's Avatar
SisterNightroad SisterNightroad is offline
Moderator
 
Join Date: Sep 2014
Location: Italy
Posts: 5,250
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by iamnotafraid View Post
My wife Candice Swanepoel (she didn't take my last name) is
very secure in our relationship. No suspicions.
You're both very lucky.

Quote:
The cheating thing, I was asking you. None of this person
to person thing.
Then I didn't understand your question. What do you mean with "At what point does it become cheating?"
  #3  
Old 07-22-2016, 04:35 PM
iamnotafraid iamnotafraid is offline
Addicted Ledgie
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Posts: 4,850
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by SisterNightroad View Post

Then I didn't understand your question. What do you mean with "At what point does it become cheating?"
If you're in a relationship what would you
consider cheating?

In other words. Where's the line to cross
to where it becomes cheating?

Kind of personal I know. But you usually
give good answers.
  #4  
Old 07-22-2016, 05:10 PM
SisterNightroad's Avatar
SisterNightroad SisterNightroad is offline
Moderator
 
Join Date: Sep 2014
Location: Italy
Posts: 5,250
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by iamnotafraid View Post
If you're in a relationship what would you
consider cheating?

In other words. Where's the line to cross
to where it becomes cheating?

Kind of personal I know. But you usually
give good answers.
I don't have a personal answer to this, in my very young life it still hasn't happened to me.

However it's true that it varies from person to person and new technologies are influencing this area as well, for example there's a great gap between those who consider sexting cheating and those who consider as cheating sexual exchanges through phone conversations and video.

There's a incredibly slight cultural difference however between men and women in what they consider cheating, and it is that men are usually a little more sensitive to sexual cheating and women are a little more sensitive toward emotional cheating. Like, would it be worse to hear that your significant other has had sex with another men/woman or that s/he has fallen in love with someone else, and thus isn't in love with you anymore? And obviously there are also those cases in which it's both of them. Obviously both men and women suffer the same in both cases but our culture enables this small gap.

Personally I think the cheating starts with the first lie. For example, from a clinical point of view, a typical scenario could be: a man/woman meets someone that likes them, is clearly interested in them and strokes their ego. Obviously nothing happens but having some light and fun conversation, and the other person may even be informed of the fact that they already are in a relationship, so the man/woman think "This is good. I'm not doing anything bad but having some innocent fun so it's not necessary to stop". Their significant other may be jealous, so they may not find necessary to tell him/her of their new acquaintance, after all they're not doing anyhting bad and it would only uselessly worry their partner; in fact it may be even seem to the man/woman that they're hiding it to do a favour to their significant other.
And that's how auto-justification strikes. It's a thin line then to cross over. At that point it isn't really cheating but when a person enables himself/herself so much it's almost impossible to go back. That's the first step.
  #5  
Old 07-22-2016, 06:32 PM
iamnotafraid iamnotafraid is offline
Addicted Ledgie
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Posts: 4,850
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by SisterNightroad View Post
I don't have a personal answer to this, in my very young life it still hasn't happened to me.

Like, would it be worse to hear that your significant other has had sex with another men/woman or that s/he has fallen in love with someone else, and thus isn't in love with you anymore?
I didn't realize you were so young.

I hope this comes as a complement, but you write older
than your years. Whatever year that is.

I think, speaking as a man that one type of cheating hurts
the ego. The other type hurts the heart.
  #6  
Old 07-23-2016, 05:03 PM
SisterNightroad's Avatar
SisterNightroad SisterNightroad is offline
Moderator
 
Join Date: Sep 2014
Location: Italy
Posts: 5,250
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by iamnotafraid View Post
I didn't realize you were so young.

I hope this comes as a complement, but you write older
than your years. Whatever year that is.
Yes, actually I'm like an old woman inside the body of a girl of twenty-cough. I like generally passing the time napping, reading and sipping tea or infusions while judging others.
  #7  
Old 07-24-2016, 02:18 AM
iamnotafraid iamnotafraid is offline
Addicted Ledgie
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Posts: 4,850
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by SisterNightroad View Post
Yes, actually I'm like an old woman inside the body of a girl of twenty-cough.

I like generally passing the time napping, reading and sipping tea or infusions while judging others.
If you're coughing at twenty (something) wait until
you hit thirty.

That Italian way of life sounds good. But you might
want to read The Little Red Hen. Just make sure it's
the one illustrated by J.P. Miller.
  #8  
Old 07-24-2016, 02:01 PM
becca's Avatar
becca becca is offline
Addicted Ledgie
 
Join Date: Jul 2002
Location: Canada
Posts: 939
Default

I know it's meant to point out ironically Trump making a point of loyalty, but I remember thinking back when there was all this news and investigations of Bill Clinton's dumb affairs with women that I really only care if someone can do their job. Short of breaking a law I really could care not at all about politicians' personal lives or the airing of these things either as positives or negatives. I don't think less of Trump for having three marriages or more of someone else for having one or none. I don't want personalities for me to like or to love or to hate... I just want someone who can do the job and says they will do it the ways I most think are best. Then again I never watch stuff like TMZ or buy People magazine etc.

Just some thoughts sparked here. If outsiders are fashionable I have never felt more like one.

  #9  
Old 07-22-2016, 05:25 PM
FuzzyPlum FuzzyPlum is offline
Addicted Ledgie
 
Join Date: Jun 2014
Posts: 3,670
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by iamnotafraid View Post
IiiiiiIiiiiIi
You have beautiful i's
  #10  
Old 07-22-2016, 06:26 PM
iamnotafraid iamnotafraid is offline
Addicted Ledgie
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Posts: 4,850
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by FuzzyPlum View Post
You have beautiful i's
Stop your flirting. I don't want Candice jealous.
Closed Thread

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On

Forum Jump


Fleetwood Mac – The Very Best Of Fleetwood Mac 2 CD Set - NEW picture

Fleetwood Mac – The Very Best Of Fleetwood Mac 2 CD Set - NEW

$17.40



Fleetwood Mac Tusk 2LP 12

Fleetwood Mac Tusk 2LP 12" Black Vinyl Warner Bros. 1979 2HS 3350

$29.99



Fleetwood Mac LP Bundle - Best of Fleetwood Mac picture

Fleetwood Mac LP Bundle - Best of Fleetwood Mac

$124.99



Fleetwood Mac - Worldwide Live 10 CD Box Set - NEW picture

Fleetwood Mac - Worldwide Live 10 CD Box Set - NEW

$35.99



Fleetwood Mac - Alternate Collection (6 CD Box) New Sealed CD picture

Fleetwood Mac - Alternate Collection (6 CD Box) New Sealed CD

$45.99




All times are GMT -5. The time now is 10:55 PM.


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.11
Copyright ©2000 - 2026, vBulletin Solutions Inc.
© 1995-2003 Martin and Lisa Adelson, All Rights Reserved