Rolling Stone Interview

[michelej1]

Originally Posted by rhiannondontgo

I don't shame her for it.

And I wasn't commending her for it. I think her dating was fine, because she doesn't strike me as monogamous, so I don't know why she'd be in a relationship that called for that. It seems she tended towards relationships meant to self-destruct, like one of those Mission Impossible tapes.

Originally Posted by rhiannondontgo

She's not an independant person, yknow. That's all I was saying.

No, she doesn't like being alone. I guess it's good she can always afford an entourage.

I was reading an excerpt from Rupert Everett's book in Vogue and he said in the eighties when he was broke, he was living with someone who lived next door to Bette Davis and he would look through the window and see Bette toothless, listless in houserobe and slippers and no wig on, watching her own movies (Rupert said A Stolen Life) on tv. If his story is true, that certainly put an indelible image of Bette's last years in my head.

Stevie is going to always have her assistant or photographer or someone living with her along with her dog and the whole gang of them will be sitting there watching old videos together, when she's 90.

Michele

[redbird]

Stevie's life has had this constant tension between relationship commitment and career (way to state the obvious). I came across this one Rumours-era spread on FM recently on Tumblr where Stevie said when she grows up she sees herself, among other things, raising kids. We know that didn't happen. I think she did want a family and her career both. If you look at the press, the people whom they're asking "How do you manage to have a family and career BOTH" are always women. For men, having both is not remarkable, it's the norm, and I kinda feel like Stevie naively thought she as a woman could have both when she was younger, and throughout her career learned that she could not, not easily anyway. I think she always wanted a harbor to anchor in, but she also wanted her freedom, and she found it hard to find that, though you could probably find relationships in which men enjoyed exactly that (a harbor to come home to when all the adventuring was done for a time). I might project because this is very much a tension I feel personally; I have always been described by many as independent, since I was about 5 years old, but that doesn't mean I like feeling lonely or that I don't need people. Everybody needs somebody sometimes, blah blah blah. Sorry to get confessional, my point is that I think it's possible for Stevie to have just wanted both roots and wings, like a lot of people do. She's kind of unapologetic about her choices in interviews, I see that as her way of owning up to her choices and refusing to hide behind them. As melodramatic as she can get, I also feel like a part of her refuses to become a pure tragedy.

Her self-destructing taste in men , I like the idea that I think WildHearted put forth elsewhere that it's self-sabotaging on purpose on a subconscious level, so that there's a built-in escape clause. That and her melodramatic romantic nature at that age.

[michelej1]

She says it's hard to find a guy who is content to see you driving off in the limo to the next gig all the time, but I think if she had a man like that he'd bore her. To keep her interest, I think she probably wants a man with a life as active or intriguing as hers and of course if she did find someone like that, it would make maintaining a relationship even harder.

The men who would be candidates for a stable life aren't the ones who stimulate her, though they might make great friends.

Michele

[redbird]

"And you come runnin' out / In the wind with me" <-- I think that's what she ideally wants. For what it's worth, which again is nothing more than armchair psychology/gossip.