Who was more f**ked up?

[lagringader&r]

This thread isn't meant to be offensive but I have a question and I can't decide who is more *wrong* or *confused*. I have a friend (no it is NOT me) who I was talking to on the phone. Ok this chick has not had sex in a really long time. A really long time. I'm talking about more than a few trips around the sun. She has dudes hitting on her and she goes out but she won't have sex. None of my friends are into the whole moral religious thing so that's not it. So she's telling me about this dude she went out with about 3 times. The last of those dates he got really out of control even tho she told him she wasn't going to have sex with him. She said she let him go further than usual but she didn't know he had *whipped it out*. She freaked out and actually scared him or so he told her. I think she's afraid to have sex. But who is more *wrong* or *confused*? Him, for whipping it out? Or her for freaking out? She also thinks the dude split because she told him how long it had been and freaked out at the sight of his d**k or at the idea of what he was about to do. So she thinks he split. Can peeps be afraid of sex? And why? She's one of my only female friends so I don't know what advice to give her. I am a walking nerve ending so I don't have that problem and don't know what to say. Anybody?