~ Maid of Honor ~ advice thread

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so here's the deal... trash-zilla, hereafter referred to as my cousin, is getting married in september and asked me to be her MOH. great. she has no friends and i'm the only relative. alright, i accepted because i knew that my dear grandmother's heart would break if i didn't. so now i'm in and i have no idea what i'm doing. maybe it would be different if we were closer, or if we were friendlier, or if we ever actually spoke...

so here's what i'm asking... what are the traditional MOH duties outside of the bridal shower and the toast? can i lobby for the dress that i want as long as it compliments hers and her colors? do i get her a gift?

also, she's 5'1" and i'm almost 5'6" - should i not get 5" heels?

all comments are welcome, especially trashy bride jokes...