The Just Thought I'd Share Thread - Page 289

RickRobert · #**4321** 01-29-2011, 08:55 PM

Not sure if this is the right place for this but I could use some advice. I'm thinking of contacting my dad on Facebook, I haven't seen him since I was 7, but he messages my mum now and then asking how I do with exams and stuff like that, so I figure he cares but it could be my mum getting in the way. She doesn't like him as far as I know and might go bananas if she finds out about me talking to him behind her back... and even then I don't really know how I'm supposed to approach messaging him like that. Does anyone have any advice?

Silver Springs · #**4322** 01-29-2011, 09:09 PM

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Originally Posted by RickRobert

Not sure if this is the right place for this but I could use some advice. I'm thinking of contacting my dad on Facebook, I haven't seen him since I was 7, but he messages my mum now and then asking how I do with exams and stuff like that, so I figure he cares but it could be my mum getting in the way. She doesn't like him as far as I know and might go bananas if she finds out about me talking to him behind her back... and even then I don't really know how I'm supposed to approach messaging him like that. Does anyone have any advice?

I'd think about it long and hard, if I were you. Until you know for sure one way or another. Maybe even consider sitting down with your Mother and having a real conversation about him, telling her how much getting to know your Dad again means to you. And how important it is to you to just know him. And most importantly; that it doesn't mean you love her any less and that you're any less grateful for the hard work she's put into raising you over the years. Just bare in mind that if you do contact him you run the risk of being severely dissappointed. Although I suppose you'll at least know for sure. But just prepare yourself because it's a big step.

Meowi · #**4323** 01-29-2011, 09:20 PM

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Originally Posted by RickRobert

Not sure if this is the right place for this but I could use some advice. I'm thinking of contacting my dad on Facebook, I haven't seen him since I was 7, but he messages my mum now and then asking how I do with exams and stuff like that, so I figure he cares but it could be my mum getting in the way. She doesn't like him as far as I know and might go bananas if she finds out about me talking to him behind her back... and even then I don't really know how I'm supposed to approach messaging him like that. Does anyone have any advice?

Just do what your heart says, like in Wuthering Heights - when Linton and Cathy are sending letters to each other. If you really want to contact him do it - but like Cathy you will have to face consequences.

RickRobert · #**4324** 01-29-2011, 09:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Silver Springs

I'd think about it long and hard, if I were you. Until you know for sure one way or another. Maybe even consider sitting down with your Mother and having a real conversation about him, telling her how much getting to know your Dad again means to you. And how important it is to you to just know him. And most importantly; that it doesn't mean you love her any less and that you're any less grateful for the hard work she's put into raising you over the years. Just bare in mind that if you do contact him you run the risk of being severely dissappointed. Although I suppose you'll at least know for sure. But just prepare yourself because it's a big step.

It's impossible to talk to my mum about anything

I've met my dad before and I know he's not that great... it's just it couldn't hurt to try, maybe I'll be able to trust him and there's a big lack of people I can trust in my life. Plus I'd like to meet my step-brother, and I have an uncle on that side of the family around my age(!) that I'd really like to talk to again. So all I have to worry about is my mum. I'll try and talk to her and maybe she'll see where I'm coming from...

amberlemegan · #**4325** 01-29-2011, 10:40 PM

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How sad that she was by herself.

I know that is was one of the things that really upset me

That must have been so hard.

jannieC · #**4326** 01-30-2011, 09:10 AM

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Originally Posted by RickRobert

It's impossible to talk to my mum about anything

I've met my dad before and I know he's not that great... it's just it couldn't hurt to try, maybe I'll be able to trust him and there's a big lack of people I can trust in my life. Plus I'd like to meet my step-brother, and I have an uncle on that side of the family around my age(!) that I'd really like to talk to again. So all I have to worry about is my mum. I'll try and talk to her and maybe she'll see where I'm coming from...

How old are you, Rick? I think you have every right so see your father, but I would strongly caution against going into this looking for trust. If your expectations are too high, you run the risk of getting hurt. I don't know what your relationship with your mom is like, but I am guessing if you approach the subject in the way you described, she will go even more into protection mode. Good luck- this is a tough situation.

Enchanted_Stevi · #**4327** 01-31-2011, 05:44 PM

JTIS that we're suppose to get another 20 inches of snow between tomorrow and wednesday!!!!

Incase no one knows...where I live in Massachusetts...the snow is already almost up to my hips lol Soon the snow will be taller then me lol

amberlemegan · #**4328** 01-31-2011, 06:00 PM

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JTIS that we're suppose to get another 20 inches of snow between tomorrow and wednesday!!!!

Incase no one knows...where I live in Massachusetts...the snow is already almost up to my hips lol Soon the snow will be taller then me lol

oh man that's a lot. I have no idea how much I'm supposed to get tomorrow. I've heard anywhere from like 2 inches to like over a foot. I guess I'll find out tomorrow. And then on Wednesday we are getting ice or something. Sweet.

Enchanted_Stevi · #**4329** 01-31-2011, 06:02 PM

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oh man that's a lot. I have no idea how much I'm supposed to get tomorrow. I've heard anywhere from like 2 inches to like over a foot. I guess I'll find out tomorrow. And then on Wednesday we are getting ice or something. Sweet.

Tomorrow is like 4-6 inches and wednesday is 9-18inches!!!!! I'm gonna like take a picture of me in the snow....JUST to prove how much there is lol

amberlemegan · #**4330** 01-31-2011, 06:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Enchanted_Stevi

Tomorrow is like 4-6 inches and wednesday is 9-18inches!!!!! I'm gonna like take a picture of me in the snow....JUST to prove how much there is lol

You should because that is a ridiculous amount of snow!

Enchanted_Stevi · #**4331** 01-31-2011, 06:10 PM

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You should because that is a ridiculous amount of snow!

I will...tomorrow...cuz I'm working til 9 tonight

TerraRhiannon · #**4332** 01-31-2011, 06:14 PM

OMFG, I love the song Heart of Stone

MacShadowsBall · #**4333** 01-31-2011, 06:39 PM

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Originally Posted by TerraRhiannon

OMFG, I love the song Heart of Stone

The Fleetwood Mac song or the Cher song?

chiliD · #**4334** 01-31-2011, 07:51 PM

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OMFG, I love the song Heart of Stone

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The Fleetwood Mac song or the Cher song?

Or the Paris song? (off of Big Towne, 2061 album)
Or the Rolling Stones' song? (off of their Rolling Stones, Now! album)
Or the Allman Bros Band's cover of the Rolling Stones song? (from their Hitting The Note album)

Silver Springs · #**4335** 01-31-2011, 07:56 PM

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Or the Paris song? (off of Big Towne, 2061 album)
Or the Rolling Stones' song? (off of their Rolling Stones, Now! album)
Or the Allman Bros Band's cover of the Rolling Stones song? (from their Hitting The Note album)

Or the Bucks Fizz song?
Or the Raveonettes song?
Or the Fontane Sisters song?
Or the Michael Bolton song?
Or the Motorhead song?

Haha. There's so many of them honey (Aimed at Jillian of course. She's my honey bunny) lol.