Dating advice uses Dreams as an example

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The Complete Idiot's Guide To The Art of Seduction, for example, advises you to imagine yourself entering a room to the sensuous beat of a Latin band, about to perform a tango. It also suggests giving your clothes an exploratory fondle: "ask yourself what the material is saying".

Next are books, popular even as late as the 90s, designed specifically to help you extract a marriage proposal. Now there seems to be a whole new genre of books emerging that recommends you dump whoever it is that has made you feel so disheartened that you have picked up a dating advice book.

These new books argue that it's much better to hold out for real love, even if that means staying single, than to settle for anything less. Have we learnt nothing from Fleetwood Mac? Stevie Nicks sang it; you better believe it: Players only love you when they're playing. As long as men hope to sleep with you, they have a reason to pretend to care about you more than they do. Helping women avoid being played like a piano is what these books are all about.

How things have changed. Ten years ago a lot of books assumed that an engagement ring was something to be chased down with the panting seriousness of those faceless, black-robed cavalry in the Lord of the Rings movies. The most famous of these is 1995's The Rules and the 1997 sequel, The Rules II.

"When you're with a man you like, be quiet and mysterious, act ladylike, cross your legs and smile. Don't talk so much. Wear black sheer pantyhose and hike up your skirt to entice the opposite sex!"

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