When life is ****...

Gypsy-Rhiannon · #1 05-25-2007, 12:37 PM

.... what do you lot do to pick yourselves up?? Any advice welcomed!

Johnny Stew · #2 05-25-2007, 12:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Gypsy-Rhiannon

.... what do you lot do to pick yourselves up?? Any advice welcomed!

I listen to music. I think it just helps to remind me that there's ALWAYS a glimmer of hope out there, even if we have to create it ourselves.

I also allow myself a few days for a pity-party. I'll let myself cry and "woe is me" for a few days, and then I say "that's enough of that," and try to find a more constructive way of looking at things.

BlackWidow · #3 05-25-2007, 12:46 PM

Forgive yourself and allow yourself to start over.
You are always at choice.

Gypsy-Rhiannon · #4 05-25-2007, 12:50 PM

Music does seem to help.. as long as it's nothing too depressing! That can just make you feel even worse!

Johnny Stew · #5 05-25-2007, 12:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Gypsy-Rhiannon

Music does seem to help.. as long as it's nothing too depressing! That can just make you feel even worse!

My favorite "rainy day" song is actually "Don't Stop."
I can't help but smile when I hear it, and, as corny as it may seem, it helps to remind me that, while today might be awful, tomorrow holds promise for something better.

(If you didn't know already, I'm a big corn-ball.

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GypsySorcerer · #6 05-25-2007, 12:55 PM

I'll get a manicure or pedicure or watch a silly movie or brainless comedy. It also gives me a boost to do something kind for someone else. And some chocolate chip cookie dough does a body good.

estranged4life · #7 05-25-2007, 01:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Gypsy-Rhiannon

.... what do you lot do to pick yourselves up?? Any advice welcomed!

is keep a stiff upper lip and 'soldier onwards".

Believe me, My personal life (ie-marriage) has went to **** and the only thing for me to do is 'soldier onwards' and see where life takes me.

No time for a pity-effing-party, just cut your losses and go foward and try to learn from any mistakes.

I find the way to get those negative feelings out of my head is to type about whatever is going on in my life by updating the blog I have at myspace, More of a self-help thing than anything else...Helps me to unwind!

Plus, I blast my hearing into oblivion when I get somewhat EMO...Death Metal seems to work wonders for me

danax6 · #8 05-25-2007, 01:14 PM

Conjur up memories from when times were even ****tier than they are now. Watch really sad movies, because seeing how bad others have it always makes you realize your life might not be as bad (you know, Terms of Endearment and the likes...). Play a LOT of music, music is always therapeutic.

Oh, and smoke a joint. Or have a shot of tequila.

(I'll wait for markolas to show up now.)

Richard B · #9 05-25-2007, 01:17 PM

I laugh like I've gone insane.

Seriously though, I divert myself with something unexpected. A long walk on the beach usually does the trick. For extreme dramatic effect, try the beach at night. I used to sing my little heart out to the ocean waves crashing.

BTFLCHLD · #10 05-25-2007, 01:28 PM

A soft shoulder or pillow works for me.

Rickypt · #11 05-25-2007, 01:29 PM

I go to therapy.

Richard B · #12 05-25-2007, 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Gypsy-Rhiannon

.... what do you lot do to pick yourselves up?? Any advice welcomed!

PS
I saw your little tune list. I love Agnetha. In fact, the song 'The Day Before You Came' is playing here on my iPod at work. I love her vocal on this track.

Sarah · #13 05-25-2007, 01:41 PM

For me it depends. There's like, sad ****, hopeless ****, angry ****, etc etc etc.

If it's sadness or hopelessness, a lot of times I'll go for a drive out in the middle of nowhere with the windows down and the music up. Sometimes it's a short drive. Sometimes I don't come back for a long time.

Mostly I just bottle it up and store it way down deep inside and hope it kills me sooner rather than later. That's not my advice for you.. that's just what I do, coming from a family and place where everything is off limits and talking about things is bad.

Good luck.

BlackWidow · #14 05-25-2007, 01:41 PM

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Originally Posted by BTFLCHLD

A soft shoulder or pillow works for me.

She wasn't talking about sex...

michelle2677 · #15 05-25-2007, 01:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Gypsy-Rhiannon

.... what do you lot do to pick yourselves up?? Any advice welcomed!

I drink myself to an unconscious state

o.k. just kidding. Music helps, but mostly friends. Surround yourself by a great group of people who genuinely care about you and always know those perfect things to say.

are you o.k.??