Food n Fitness Thread #9837483

[foxyluva]

Originally Posted by carrie721

it's been about a month ... maybe a little longer.

Wait, what have I missed - why have you been feeling down?

[SuzeQuze]

Originally Posted by markolas

She was probably drunk. I think that was the summer she lived with us and ate and drank nothing but Vicodin and Old Crow.

Nice to having a loving, nurturing grandma, eh? Oy. Mine's a real piece of work too.

[skcin]

Originally Posted by carrie721

she really gets into it!

it's been about a month ... maybe a little longer.

So right after Curtis hit you in the head with a flying object, Theresa refused to have sex with you & we all left town?



Seriously though - you've done it before, and you can do it again. You'll get through this. Even though your mom's a whore.

[carrie721]

Originally Posted by foxyluva

Wait, what have I missed - why have you been feeling down?

i dunno, i just have. no real reason.

Originally Posted by skcin

So right after Curtis hit you in the head with a flying object, Theresa refused to have sex with you & we all left town?



Seriously though - you've done it before, and you can do it again. You'll get through this. Even though your mom's a whore.

exactly - something in my heart died that night ... oh well, it's just one more chip off an already broken heart.

and thanks. just gotta keep on keepin' on.

[JazmenFlowers]

Originally Posted by SuzeQuze

Nice to having a loving, nurturing grandma, eh? Oy. Mine's a real piece of work too.

yeah really.

my grandmother once offered me $20 for every 5 lbs I lost. I was heartbroken b/c it came out of nowhere. then one year my aunt told me she was going to get me a personal trainer for my birthday. that really sent me over the edge.

and my family wonders why I have issues (especially appearance)?

[carrie721]

Originally Posted by JazmenFlowers

yeah really.

my grandmother once offered me $20 for every 5 lbs I lost. I was heartbroken b/c it came out of nowhere. then one year my aunt told me she was going to get me a personal trainer for my birthday. that really sent me over the edge.

and my family wonders why I have issues (especially appearance)?

holy crap, jaz, that sucks.

my mom used to say "wouldn't you just feel better if you'd lose some weight? don't you think you're overweight? etc." ... i was 9, and i wasn't even overweight! i've always been large-framed. the kids at school were mean, tho, so it was extra nice to get it from mom. ugh.

[SuzeQuze]

Originally Posted by JazmenFlowers

yeah really.

my grandmother once offered me $20 for every 5 lbs I lost. I was heartbroken b/c it came out of nowhere. then one year my aunt told me she was going to get me a personal trainer for my birthday. that really sent me over the edge.

and my family wonders why I have issues (especially appearance)?

Wow! My family is really bad about appearance too. My aunt once told my Mom, "She's thin except for [saddlebags]." And my Mom TOLD ME she said that. WTF? It's genetic and I can't get rid of it without surgery but leave it to them to be so critical. My grandmother once made me feel like a slut for wearing one barrette, I was 11. I'm very vain and very self-critical. Shocker, eh?

On edit: Your family has the bigger issues, you're the fab one.

[DrummerDeanna]

^^

Mostly I've been lucky on the family side (aside from the unlce who nicknamed me ugly as a child.) But two of my aunts and one cousin had eating disorders, and rather than continuing that trend they really seemed to try and build a healthy body image with me...telling me I wasn't fat etc..

And when I lost a bunch of weight and firmed up my last year in college my grandma FREAKED out...said I was too thin etc....so it usually goes the other way in my family...though the fact that my grandma has not been harassing me about how skinny I am means that I am, in fact, over weight

[JazmenFlowers]

Originally Posted by DrummerDeanna

And when I lost a bunch of weight and firmed up my last year in college my grandma FREAKED out...said I was too thin etc....

of course they did. if you're not too fat then you must be too thin. you're never "ok" - mine did the same thing.

[skcin]

Wow. You guys have some f*cked up families. Mine's nowhere near normal either, but I was never made to feel that I was fat or unattractive. That's awful, and just goes to show how your upbringing really affects you for the rest of your life.

Did you guys see the Biggest Loser last night? That whiny girl got kicked off, so I didn't mind cuz she annoyed me. But I felt awful for her - she had lost a total of 60something pounds, yet she was upset because she hadn't gotten below 160. It's sad that for some of us, nothing will ever be quite good enough. What she accomplished was so amazing, but all she could focus on were the 2 more pounds she needed to get below 160.

[JazmenFlowers]

^^^
so true. my family is reason numero uno why I am so obsessed with appearance and how I look and why I always think that no one will "love" me if I'm not perfect...I like to think that I am fine inside and out, but there's always that voice in my head. "you look so stupid in that" or "that makes you look fat" or "where are the husky jeans?"

I remember like it was yesterday my grandma taking me to a high-end store to get some jeans and she loudly asked where the husky section was. well, once I tried them on I had to come out in front of the sales folk while she poked and prodded and checked the waist to see if it was too tight, etc. talk about embarassed.

[DrummerDeanna]

^^

Yup...what happens in our upbringing often stays with us. Of course like I said, it wasn't so much family for me BUT I just remembered...my mom took me to this doctor...it was free on-campus health care for faculty and their families.

I remember this doctor because I went there because my mom was afraid I had Strep throat - he came in and said, "well you're daughter is fat and will only get fatter unless you do something.." I was so NOT fat...when I look at pictures..I was just fine - but at that time I felt like a huge blimp...

The doctor gave no advice on health or diet - just said told me I was fat

He's no longer there...he got canned after refusing to treat a gay man and then he was quoted in the paper as saying gays are just more apt to disease so why treat them....asshole.

[skcin]

^ Wow, that guy sounds nuts.

I do recall that when I was about 12 I asked the MD if I was fat. She said "Oh no, you're not fat all all. You're just.....solid."

[DrummerDeanna]

Originally Posted by skcin

^ Wow, that guy sounds nuts.

I do recall that when I was about 12 I asked the MD if I was fat. She said "Oh no, you're not fat all all. You're just.....solid."

Just solid what every little girl dreams of hearing. My mom once took me to my aunt's work so my aunt could lecture me on how not fat I was...I wouldn't listen.

This was before the doctor fiasco. I do wonder - my mom never criticized my looks, nor did my sister or other relatives (except for the uncle who called me "ugly") So I often wonder where the hang-up of being fat came from - as far back as I can remember I've thought I was fat....

And even though when I look at pics now I wasn't...I was always called fat by boys and such...

Childhood sucks.

[SuzeQuze]

It sounds like I was very lucky I was skinny. But I always knew that and thanked God for it. My last name would not work well if I were a heavy child. Oy. But after puberty that gift of metabolism went the way of the honey bee and I've had pretty serious body image issues since. My grandfather's a beaut, a couple of years ago he told me I'd put on A LOT of weight. Um, no kidding.

Oh yeah, in second grade some kid said really loud just about yelling, "Susan ____, she's a dog!" Then I thought I was ugly. Weird huh? Kids really suck. So I didn't have the fat thing but the ugly thing, yeah.