Nightmare Weekend

DavidMn · #1 07-25-2006, 12:01 PM

Well, where on earth do I start. I've just had one of the worst, if not the worst weekends of my life. The stuff I'm about to tell you all, I couldnt make up even if I wanted to so here goes.

Derek a friend of his and I went out to the bar Friday night, and I met them at closing time and they were hammered completely. I guide them back to the car and Derek's friend falls into the back seat and passes out. After making sure he was safely in the car I turned to find that Derek had decided to take a leak right in the middle of the sidewalk! I yelled "Pull your F**KIN PANTS UP!" I finally got him into the car and were on our way home, or so I thought. After getting on the highway and driving for about 15 minutes Derek puked all over himself and the inside of my car.

I pulled over to the side of the freeway and told him to get out of the car so I could clean the mess up. Thankfully most of the **** got on him and not the car, but I still had to use paper towel to pickupthe rest.

Meanwhile Derek had fallen over and passed out in the bushes. So I picked him up to find that he was COVERED with vomit. SO I told him to take his shirt and pants off,(He still had his underwear on) so he could sit in the car again. He didnt like that so I told him he could walk home if he didnt do what I told him. Got him back in the car minus the clothes and as I pulled away from the shoulder he decdides to start punching me. I almost crashed and jerked the car over to the side of the road and I said"WHAT THE F**K IS WRONG WITH YOU?!?!?!" He then got out of the car and decided to run into the middle lane of the freeway in only his underwear. I got him back in the car again and we had to stop at a gas station for gas. While filling up he jumped out of thecar again and ran into the store yelling that I was going to kill him. He thought this becasue when he started hitting me while I was driving, I clocked him a couple on the arm to get him off me. Anyway, I tried to get him back into the car again, and he proceeded to hit me so hard on the back of the head that I fell to the ground. By this time the cops had arrived and they cuffed himand put him into the back of an ambulance. The officer told me that they were taking him to the emergency room for his own safety. Derek had completely destroyed my glasses in addiditon to giving me a black eye. They took him to the hospital and I drove his other friend home. Derek's parents went to pick him up at the hospital later that day, but I went over to a friends place because I just needed a timeout.

Then to make matters even worse, I get home Sunday night and he tells me that hes thinking about going back into treatment because hes been using meth again. HOw prophetic was that meth thread I started?

I had told him that if I caught him doing that stuff again, the relationship was terminated because I wasnt going to tolerate it. He told me taht hed been using it again for about 5 months! I've been completely overwhelmed the last couple days trying to figure out what to do. It's easy to tell someone youre outta there if they do something, but it's alot harder to actually do it. I just dont know what to do.

Thanks for letting me get this off my chest.

Patti · #2 07-25-2006, 12:46 PM

Aw David, I'm sorry to hear that. As I was reading your story, I was thinking "this guy's more than just drunk".

Think long and hard as to what decision you're going to make. Do what's right for you, that's all you can do.

DavidMn · #3 07-25-2006, 12:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Patti

Aw David, I'm sorry to hear that. As I was reading your story, I was thinking "this guy's more than just drunk".

Think long and hard as to what decision you're going to make. Do what's right for you, that's all you can do.

WHats even more upsetting is t hat I asked him several times are you doing it, and he repeatedly denied it. I'm no angel believe me, I've made some bad mistakes with Derek too. You should see the shiner he gave me.

David · #4 07-25-2006, 01:07 PM

Dave, I'm sorry to hear about your really crappy weekend. But I must say that your post about it was the most animated post you have ever made on this forum. There was more personality & emotion in this single post than in all your other posts combined, which is what made it so amazing to me. It showed a side of you that quite frankly I had no idea existed (& assumed didn't).

So I hope next weekend is better for you!

edit: Holy ****! You got a shiner, too?!

amber · #5 07-25-2006, 01:28 PM

I'm very sorry, David.

But the best part is that he said he's thinking of going back into treatment. Maybe you can say "you better do more than think about it" and then if he goes that will be good. I'm suprised you couldn't tell he's been doing it? I guess he wasn't doing it regularly? I thought you guys spent a lot of time together. But then, you did ask him.

DrummerDeanna · #6 07-25-2006, 01:30 PM

that weekend truly does sound like a nightmare. But as Amber said, it's good that he's at least considering treatment, but he probably needs to pushed to actually DO it.

hope things work out - keep us posted.

carrie721 · #7 07-25-2006, 01:34 PM

Aw, David, I'm so sorry to hear about your horrible weekend. Be strong and remember that you have to do what's best for YOU.

Pisces Queen · #8 07-25-2006, 01:34 PM

David ~ I am so sorry to hear about your weekend. I hate to say this but without alot of help and strong will to change on his part ~ he isn't going to quite. I didn't post in the meth thread because it's too hard to tell my story. But I have been through the depts of hell with meth and was married to an addict and he never changed. Only 20% of people who get hooked are able to stop. Not to say your friend won't but the writing is on the wall. You have to take care of yourself. Nobody else will ~ if he's been using for the last 5 months there is no telling what else he has done. My thoughts and prayers are with you ~

estranged4life · #9 07-25-2006, 01:42 PM

David, and try to be strong...My thoughts are with you.

HomerMcvie · #10 07-25-2006, 01:44 PM

I think I'd get the hell out, David.
My cousin left her husband of 25 years, over Meth. He's pushing 50, and decided he loved Meth more than his wife, and kids, and house, and cars, and boat, and..........
He wouldn't stop, or get help, so she pulled the plug. She HAD to.

irishgrl · #11 07-25-2006, 01:52 PM

Ah SH*T David, I had no idea that happened, and you never let on

My friend, Derek needs help, and its a good thing he realizes it, and for both your sakes, I hope he gets the help he needs. I would guess you're probably in shock over this whole thing, but you need to take care of DAVID first. you and Derek can sort out your relationship later......

side comment: Amber, its possible to not 'know' about a person's drug use--if you dont do drugs (or never did) you dont always know what to look for. My daughter went off the deep end and all I knew was I didnt recognize her any more...I hadnt ever done drugs so drug-related behavior isnt readily apparent to me.

Anyway, David my friend, I grieve for you and will pray for you. I know you are a strong person with both feet on the ground, and you will be fine. In the meantime, here's a virtual *hug* for you and this:

hang in there, and PM me if you want to talk...

sara1998 · #12 07-25-2006, 01:54 PM

Just remember, in all honesty, you can't "help" someone with an addiction. They have to help themselves, and want to quit. You can be there for support, but there's no making their minds up for them. The only way he can get "help" is if he really wants it.

Good luck to you, David. Decide whats best for you.

irishgrl · #13 07-25-2006, 01:54 PM

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Originally Posted by HomerMcvie

I think I'd get the hell out, David.
My cousin left her husband of 25 years, over Meth. He's pushing 50, and decided he loved Meth more than his wife, and kids, and house, and cars, and boat, and..........
He wouldn't stop, or get help, so she pulled the plug. She HAD to.

Meth is so EVIL, I HATE that drug. Ive seen more of my friends messed up on that than any other drug. Minds turned to complete mush. lives ruined. ruined. such a pity...

SuzeQuze · #14 07-25-2006, 02:42 PM

What a FRIGHTENING weekend, David. I'm sorry that happened. Meth is really nuts huh? Aside from how easy it is to get I don't know much about the toll the drug takes. I'm shocked to see only 20% of people get off of it. That's crazy. But Derek can be part of that 20% if he chooses to. Hang in there and Mary is right, focus on taking care of you.

irishgrl · #15 07-25-2006, 03:05 PM

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Originally Posted by SuzeQuze

and Mary is right.

Has a nice ring to it doesnt it?