Holidays

markolas · #1 11-29-2004, 12:57 PM

Am I the only person who has issues with being single during the holidays? I usually don't care to be in a relationship during any other time of year, but between Halloween and Valentine's Day, I get this unbearable need to be coupled.

This year, it's worse because I haven't had any "relations" since the spring, plus both of my roommates have boyfriends and I'm around them all the time. Watching them all be lovey-dovey with each other is really getting to me.

So, yeah...just getting that off my chest.

sparky · #2 11-29-2004, 01:05 PM

Actually, while I was starting to wrap presents last night, I had a twinge about the last few holidays spent with my ex. Especially seeing some of the leftover things from seasons past. It was VERY fun to buy and wrap stuff for him. However, when I rehashed the reasons we aren't together and how I relish my freedom -the feelings quickly passed. The holidays are feeling so stress free on my own. All the other traditions are still in place. I am throwing an enormous party and the idea of him participating - shheeesh. He made it so stressful. Extremely happy to be on my own ! I don't have to factor someone else's obligations and "issues" into what is a great time of year. But then, I am pretty independent and a naturally happy guy.

amber · #3 11-29-2004, 01:11 PM

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Originally Posted by markolas

Am I the only person who has issues with being single during the holidays? I usually don't care to be in a relationship during any other time of year, but between Halloween and Valentine's Day, I get this unbearable need to be coupled.

This year, it's worse because I haven't had any "relations" since the spring, plus both of my roommates have boyfriends and I'm around them all the time. Watching them all be lovey-dovey with each other is really getting to me.

So, yeah...just getting that off my chest.

Gross. lovey dovey roomates.

Yeah, I feel that way a bit, but mainly because i want some. Whenever i want. often. and it's kind of lonely too, i suppose...Plus it's so cold...

Plus i'm alone and no one loves me...thanks, Markolas...

ontheEdgeof17 · #4 11-29-2004, 01:12 PM

I have mixed feelings about this. Sometimes I want someone, and then sometimes I don't. It's not worse for me around this time of year. It will be two years in Feb since I have been in a "serious relationship" and I guess the lonliness has worn off.

I think after I graduation I will be more lonely. It will be a new life after that. I will actually have a "real job". I'm moving to a new place and if I am single around this time next year, I will probably be down in the dumps. At the moment, I am ok with it......but it WOULD BE AWESOME if I wasn't single. I'm a LTR kinda guy.

strandinthewind · #5 11-29-2004, 01:25 PM

I am happiest with my two Scotties and will be so this year!!!!!!!

wondergirl9847 · #6 11-29-2004, 01:31 PM

Being single can open your mind to what YOU are. You can see what YOU are capable of without someone else.

But, what the heck do I know, I've never had a boyfriend.

Villavic · #7 11-29-2004, 01:31 PM

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Originally Posted by markolas

Am I the only person who has issues with being single during the holidays? I usually don't care to be in a relationship during any other time of year, but between Halloween and Valentine's Day, I get this unbearable need to be coupled.

HELLO??? Hey, I'VE BEEN THERE! Actually I am!!

Though xmas, it's more a family reunion,. all relatives are with husbands or wives, and it's a bit annoying whn they ask.. And when do you get married???

It is worse on Valentine. If I'm single I prefer to stay alone at homes. Besides all places are full,. traffic is a nightmare, etc. I prefer to spend a blockbuster night.

And no pains on New Year's eve. I have fun anyway, no matter being single or with someone, it's always exciting.

HomerMcvie · #8 11-29-2004, 01:34 PM

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Originally Posted by amber

Gross. lovey dovey roomates.

Kill them while they're making out.

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Yeah, I feel that way a bit, but mainly because i want some. Whenever i want. often. and it's kind of lonely too, i suppose...Plus it's so cold...

Plus i'm alone and no one loves me...thanks, Markolas...

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It always sucks for me from about the first of November through New Years Day, then I get over it pretty quickly. The holidays blow, imo.

HomerMcvie · #9 11-29-2004, 01:39 PM

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Originally Posted by strandinthewind

I am happiest with my two Scotties and will be so this year!!!!!!!

Yep. My son, err, I mean dog, is a little TOO important in my daily routine. Today, I'm getting Christmas cards made with my holiday avatar on them. Pretty sad, no?

dissention · #10 11-29-2004, 02:04 PM

Nah, I don't feel lonely. I'm single by choice and like being able to do what I want when I want to do it. Sometimes I want to be with someone because I just like the company and love being around another person that I can be myself with 24/7, but then I realize that if I really wanted stuff like that, I'd be pursuing it. I'm not, so I guess I don't.

I've had relationships in the past and I've found myself bored a lot. After awhile, you just get to know someone so much that there's nothing left to get to know. You're sexually alone, everyday stuff becomes even more routine, and I just end up bored as hell. Maybe I just haven't met anyone special, who knows. Doesn't exactly make the prospect of marriage very pleasing.

So, no, I'm not lonely around the holidays.

dissention · #11 11-29-2004, 02:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Villavic

HELLO??? Hey, I'VE BEEN THERE! Actually I am!!

Though xmas, it's more a family reunion,. all relatives are with husbands or wives, and it's a bit annoying whn they ask.. And when do you get married???

It is worse on Valentine. If I'm single I prefer to stay alone at homes. Besides all places are full,. traffic is a nightmare, etc. I prefer to spend a blockbuster night.

And no pains on New Year's eve. I have fun anyway, no matter being single or with someone, it's always exciting.

The worst part about the holidays is being asked over to a party or to someone's house for dinner...and the people asking you are either married, engaged, or in love.

I had two friends from college who got married two years ago and they asked me over for Christmas Eve dinner last year. I got there and everyone else was there with somebody else.

I literally felt like a page that had been ripped out of Bridget Jones's diary. You know the feeling you get from everyone else, that there must be something wrong with you or that you're a sleep-farter or something; the pregnant couples are the WORST, too. It's the most embarassing thing in the world. And they stare at you and condescend you so much that you feel like smacking them upside their heads and then crawling under a rock. Add to that the fact that I had made cookies to bring them but they were burnt to a crisp and I? Was so uncomfortable that I think I wet myself twice.

amber · #12 11-29-2004, 02:40 PM

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Originally Posted by dissention

The worst part about the holidays is being asked over to a party or to someone's house for dinner...and the people asking you are either married, engaged, or in love.

I had two friends from college who got married two years ago and they asked me over for Christmas Eve dinner last year. I got there and everyone else was there with somebody else.

I literally felt like a page that had been ripped out of Bridget Jones's diary. You know the feeling you get from everyone else, that there must be something wrong with you or that you're a sleep-farter or something; the pregnant couples are the WORST, too. It's the most embarassing thing in the world. And they stare at you and condescend you so much that you feel like smacking them upside their heads and then crawling under a rock. Add to that the fact that I had made cookies to bring them but they were burnt to a crisp and I? Was so uncomfortable that I think I wet myself twice.

That sounds terrible. Nothing like that has ever happened to me, with friends like that...

dissention · #13 11-29-2004, 02:41 PM

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Originally Posted by amber

That sounds terrible. Nothing like that has ever happened to me, with friends like that...

Oh my, that's why I haven't spoken to them in ages.

Married folk make single folk feel awful.

estranged4life · #14 11-29-2004, 02:46 PM

single (Winter 1990) I enjoyed the wintertime...I was young, dumb and full of ___ and enjoyed the wintertime so much that I splurged on holiday presents for myself, Including the then new Led Zeppelin boxed set (The BEST boxed set EVER!)

Even though I am happily married I miss those fun single years where I did what the hell I wanted to (I still do in a way...But I have to think of someone other than myself now, Which is cool.)

Brian j.

DrummerDeanna · #15 11-29-2004, 03:07 PM

Yeah - since I moved here to Rochester I miss my ex- and the times we had together - but I did the whole "listing reasons we're not together" thing -and yeah - I'm where I want to be right now and I LOVE my freedom...

I've been out with a couple of guys since moving here both of whom annoyed the **** out of me...really really really annoyed me - so yeah I realized after those two fellows that I am not quite ready to date right now -

That said - it is still hard to be single around the holidays ... my work Christmas party is coming up and I"m like..who the hell am I gonna take? I'm going to be the only one alone (except for the gross old creepy guy...) haha - I'll just deal with it though...I'd rather be alone than with someone who I wanted to kill constantly.