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Originally Posted by -Lillith-

It seems to be very hard for you but i think i agree with the most that is said here. You should try to get more distance from him.
being around people that bring you down is toxic. It will only make you feel worse.

Do have people outside the groups you and him hang with?
Persons who are not so much confronted with what is happening?

I have one group of friends who are unconnected to him, but for the most part, I hang out at his frat. It's kind of a hard (and it sounds really idiotic) dynamic to explain, but I'm the girl who organizes everything. Dinner out somewhere in Boston for the night? I'm sending the emails and making the facebook event. Girls who frequent this frat haven't seen enough of each other? I'm knocking on doors. Again, sound stupid, but it's a strange combination of an office in an org and a way I interact with my friends. Blah.

It s a diffrent thing but i had a very best friend, we called each other soul mates and i realized i have to let her go.

I know it can be very didfficult to let somebody who is really important to you go.
Once we had a incredible connection to each other, then she changed, got Psycho Pharma Pills and so on. Her character changed... a lot..
I decided to be there for her. Always.
But last year i found out that i dont mean a lot to her anymore, she doesnt care about it anymore and told me really heavy lies.
It took me a while to get the pieces togheter. When i found out about one lie and asked her why , she pretended it wasnt even a big deal.
Its along sad story, much too long to bother you with all the details in here..

But,
The point is i was suffering from that as well, she was so very important to me, but since i really understood that it is better to stay away, i feel much better.
Because i dont believe any absolutely crazy lies anymore and care for them.
I dont have to feel that negativity anymore, she gave me the last time.

Thats why i would say, thou its still a diffrent thing, try to let go, or at least to find things outside all of this and get distance.

Thanks for telling me about your friend. Ugh. I'm really sorry. In a lot of ways, I think friends can hurt you more than significant others because there's never the expectation that they'll go.

All the best, please keep ur head up! I really tried to say something, i dont have too much experience in serious Love relationships. But that was one of the longtime really really close Persons who used to be very important to me, recently.

Thank you, again.