[mezzoforte]

Thanks everyone--it's definitely appreciated. I'm actually doing fine with it; more concerned for my mum and grandmother than anything else.
It doesn't help that this has reignited a decades-long pissing war between my grandparents. They had a messy divorce 40 years ago and, not content to let sleeping dogs lie, they spent decades suing each other and refusing to inhabit the same room. Grandma is now refusing to attend any service he is at.
She has valid reasons for her anger and I wouldn't expect her to be rational right now, but it seems a shame that both of his parents won't be at the funeral.

Such an incredible waste for anyone to nurse an anger for decades. What does that accomplish? She's spent most of her life actively hating the father of her two children.