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Originally Posted by louielouie2000
What I don't get is why people feel they have a right to get upset with other people regarding their life decisions...
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Because they need to be validated by other people's choices. A lot of times, people feel like they're being judged simply because you've made a different choice (the choice to have/not have kids, to start or quit smoking, to start or stop being religious, etc.).
I used to be a tee-totaler. I had a friend who was absolutely driven up the wall by this. I didn't make a big deal about it, I just...didn't drink. He would harass me about it every chance he got: "Why don't you drink?" "It's weird that you don't drink." "You should have a drink." He felt like I was judging him by my not drinking, and he needed for me to validate his choice to drink by drinking myself.
Same thing with the kids thing. Having kids is something "everybody does" in most people's estimation. By not following the "life script" people think you're making a value judgment against them for following it.