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Originally Posted by jannieC
No one is responsible for another person's life. I am a therapist who lost a niece to suicide. Certainly I should have been able to see the signs, right? Truth is, the people who want to die, die. I believe there are two types of suiciders. Chronically depressed people who just can't take the pain any longer and impulsive reactive people who do it in a fit of pain. Beyond that, you have folks who have personality disorders and make numerous attempts. Unfortunately, a "cry for help" can end up in a tragic end.
I really could go on and on here, but the bottom line is that this thread is making some people scared and nervous for someone who is in pain and feeling suicidal. If anyone has Bee's number, reach out to her.
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We are definitely not responsible for someone else's life, and I'm not saying that everyone who commits suicide could have been saved. What I am saying is that whoever commits suicide is obviously in terrible pain, yet we easily put blame on them because we are immensely afraid that we could have done more. Yes, there are people who want to die and there is no stopping them. But it is incredibly selfish of us to act as if they must live their life in pain to keep us happy. I don't think suicide is wrong, it think it is terribly sad. I think it is terribly wrong to ever blame a person who commits suicide and say that they are selfish and they should have sought help or said something, because many times they do and we just don't notice it. I want people to know that I'm here for them, not that I'm afraid that they won't be here for me. That is one thing I love about this forum and this thread. We reach out to complete strangers that we don't even know in our personal lives and try to save them for themselves, not for ourselves.