[Nikolaj]

New questions:
1. Name 1 or 2 times that stand out in your memory as something good you did to help someone that showed a positive result quickly .
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2. Did you ever accidentally 'walk in' on either parent when they were naked, and/or having sex? Were you traumatized? Were they?

My answers:
1. One time that first comes to mind has to do with one of the sons of my sister. He was maybe 8 years old and feeling badly because he was far behind his peers with being able to read well. His parents were having all kinds of tests done, taking him to specialists, had meetings at the school with his advisor, and he had a tutor. His mom was on the phone with the school and I was down the hall with him. His little face was all distraught because he knew he was being talked about, again.
I told him "Don't worry so much about it, they're making too big of a deal out of it. It just takes a while sometimes for your brain to catch up with you. It will. Relax and don't feel bad about it, and don't ever feel bad about yourself. You'll be reading soon and it will be like nothing. You won't even have to try. It will come very naturally to you, when you're ready. Until then, let 'em wait!" (meaning his parents and teachers, tutor and advisor at the school). He smiled, maybe a little chuckle at "Let 'em wait."
I saw him 2 weeks later and he was reading beautifully like it had never been a problem. His self-esteem generally seemed 'right there' and he wasn't an insecure child from that point on. Of course, the efforts of his parents and teachers helped him along greatly, I'm sure, but I think I 'gave' him something they hadn't.
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2. I walked in the room once when my mom was undressed, I was maybe 11, and I turned and closed the door and walked away. As I was leaving she called out "I'm sorry" and that was that, no trauma. In fact, a couple minutes later, I went outside, where I knew she wouldn't hear me, because I knew I was going to laugh. I did.
Thankfully, no, never did walk in on my parents having sex. I heard them once, and thought 'ick', 'yuck', 'How dare they?- it's daytime'.
I was a little older, 13 or 14.