[jaycee]

I just read back through my post, and now I'm like "oh geez... the things I do when I'm drunk..."

Originally Posted by ButterCookie

Oh Jason, I wish I could give you a big hug! I'm sorry to hear about your parents and I'm being honest when I say that I know how it feels. My situation was very different but my mum (I don't know, nor do I care about my dad) is happier without my dad and if your parents aren't close any more then maybe it's for the best? As for Tessa, hang in there! Keep your self open to other opportunities but don't give up on her completely. I'm sure she's worth it Chin up, hun. We love you!

Oh, and don't feel the need to cover your own back about being drunk. If people don't like it, let them grumble to themselves! Ale and Tusk... The great Chris in the sky is pleased

(Jordan, not Jason, but don't worry - it's not an insult or anything!)
Well, remember that it's my dad and stepmum, and I've never really like my stepmum that much, although we very rarely argue. As for my mum and stepdad, they get along wonderfully, and I really like David, despite that we never talk that much (different interests basically... except for Top Gear, of course!)
Well, I'm actually not interested in trying to woo her or anything - she essentially said she doesn't want in, so I'm fine with that. That said, I still find myself musing over her excessively! Thus why I'm hoping that a final chat will clear things up a bit. I'm actually optimistic that she, Alex and I could see each other outside of class as friends in the future, but we'll see how that goes, I guess.
My sentiments exactly! Although, like I said, I enjoy drinking alcohol from time to time (and usually when I do it's quite a bit - nothing's done by halves! ), and if I didn't enjoy it, I wouldn't do it. Sadly, some people feel that they can't help themselves when it comes to alcohol, so I just didn't want to mis-portray myself as being that way.

Originally Posted by HomerMcvie

Whew, that's a long one!
My gut response to her not wanting you to have her number, is that she's not interested. However, that may not be true, entirely. I've been primarily dating college students for the past year....some are incredibly immature, and some, -the SERIOUS students-, ARE too busy to have a life, or want a life, outside of school. Grad students are the worst! I've dated like 5 grad students, and they really don't have time for a life. As soon as I hear "grad student, and I also teach sections", I want to run for the hills, because I KNOW they don't have time for a relationship.
Fortunately, I've got a grad student dropout now!

One your studies failing somewhat - I too, have let my business somewhat wither, in the past year. After years of being alone, and focusing on business, I've really been relationship oriented for the past year, and have ignored a lot of business things, that I shouldn't have. So I understand that it's hard to have a dual focus, on school and relationships. I guess you just need to try and be as regimented as you can, with your studies.
Best of luck!

Yeah, I gathered she's not interested. What concerned me was that she'd think I was angry/upset with her for turning me down, which I'm not in any way - I'm just disappointed. She seems to understand, but I'm not sure if she feels entirely comfortable...
As for uni... I've been finding it unusually hard since the start of semester. My interest in Tessa and her turning me down was really just a catalyst for me to start whining to people about my troubles, which in the grand scheme of things are really quite trivial! As I say, each and every one of us is very lucky to be alive at all (in the particular individual lotto-winning sense, not in a collective sense - someone has to win lotto at some point), so make the most of every moment! Needless to say, some people are born into situations where there isn't much hope for them, but that discussion may take us into a political field that's better suited for another thread.
Cheers HM! Good luck for... well, everything in your life!

Originally Posted by Zombie

I would caution against trying to keep explaining yourself to the girl. I totally understand the need to make sure someone understands what you did or didn't mean by a certain action, but if you've already given her the note and she's already said it's okay, then I wouldn't push it any further, whether or not you feel like she really got it or you said everything you needed to say or whatever.

She's said she's not interested (too busy - same thing), so further explanation or something is not going to make her change her mind - it'll only make you come off as annoying (at best), desperate (slightly less than at best) or creepy (at worst).

Know what I'm sayin'?

Yeah... you may not be wrong! After all, you'd know better, being a girl yourself!
I'll probably still see her tomorrow, but maybe in just a generally friendly way... like I said before (somewhere here), Tessa and Alex are enjoyable and insightful people to be around, so I'd really like to continue seeing them as friends... I can only try. But don't worry, I'm not concerned about trying to win her over or anything - it's completely up to her if she isn't interested in me.