[gold_dust]

I'm not in the same boat, but it's similar.

My boyfriend works with a guy and they're very close. Anyway, after weeks of such high praise I was actually excited to meet this guy. I was really looking forward to meeting him. At first he was very 'agreeable'. He liked all the same music as me, read all the same stuff as me (and considering some of it is a bit specialist, it was a surprise - groupie books!). No less than two days later he wants to see us again, and this time it was a bit more personal (he was told his father was dying). I was very uncomfortable going, but for the sake of my boyfriend and out of kindess, I went. Again he was pleasant.

Then suddenly, as if a switch had been flipped, he ignores me. Only me. If he sees me, instead of saying, 'Hey, I saw you the other day', he'll facebook my boyfriend and say, 'Oh, I saw .... the other day'. He won't talk to me like before, trying to converse with him is like trying to draw blood from a stone. And he'll be very happy and flirty with every other girl, but not me. I'm not interested in him romantically, obviously, but I was expecting him to treat me the same as every other girl. And it's not like I'm someone else's girlfriend is a good enough excuse. Plenty of his other close friends are in the same situation, yet he's fine with them. He didn't even wish me happy birthday, which I think is rude, considering that my boyfriend will know about it.

What bothers me more than anything is that he doesn't want to even try and act polite to me, if only for the sake of my boyfriend. He works with him 6 days a week! I mean, it's almost like he couldn't act any more disinterested around me if he tried. So, why is it me he's seemed to single me out and ignore me? It actually makes me not want to be his friend, which is a shame, because my boyfriend gets along with him so well.

Edit: Just want to point out that neither my boyfriend nor his work mate are gay.