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Originally Posted by Betsy
Hey Pip --
I don't know you, but I have a suggestion...
If you want to vent, cuss, throw a temper tantrum -- whatever... tell us....get it all out of your system...but don't do it infront of the kids.
We can offer advice, encouragment, prayers, and join in on the cursing ...
I made the mistake (one too many times) complaining to the kids about dad's shortcomings and his moving out...and it just backfired... They began to see me as the bad guy, and began trying to please dad and before I knew it, I had to deal with Saint Dad and nothing I did was right in their eyes. I should have kept my mouth shut.
It is better to let them assess the situation themselves.
Things change and we change...and 5 years from now...this probably won't be a blimp on the radar.
Hang in there and remember there are lots of friends thinking of you.
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Same kinda thing happened to my family. My mother raised my brother and my sister, and I. She was always home. Dad did well enough that she didnt have to work. So when she left dad for a preacher (the pastor of our church) we (for lack of a better term) just crucified her. She had just sunk so low in our eyes. And our father, who was a great man, but not around much...suddenly became the dad we always wanted him to be. We were "all he had" so he wanted to be close to us at that point. So we clutched onto him like a drowning man and a life preserver. I regret that a little now, because my mother didnt deserve that. But I'm also glad in a way, now, because my father has passed on that we got closer thru that ordeal.