[sparky]

Originally Posted by Sugar

And I don't understand it either.

Here's a good essay I found:

http://www.bidstrup.com/marriage.htm

Sugar, I suggest you go out and buy a book called "The Commitment" by Dan Savage. It will give you every single thing you need. Or just google him, as many excerpts of his book have appeared other places. He starts off not wanting to get married at all, and through a series of misadventures, his opinion changes a bit. It will solve all your problems re: the editiorial.