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Originally Posted by The Tower
If you don't like her, don't fake it and be nice to her. There's nothing wrong with not clicking with someone, it happens all the time.
If you don't like her Deanna, be honest with her. If she someone butts in and tries to inviter herself to stuff she wasn't invited to, just tell the truth- "I'm sorry Jane Doe, but I'm not really clicking with you and this is a gathering for me and my friends. I'm not trying to offend you- I just don't think we'll be getting along and I'd like to enjoy myself."
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I totally disagree. How hard is it to be nice to someone who might be somewhat mentally challenged for only a few hours at a time? If you don't click with somebody, it doesn't mean you have to not be nice. You can still be nice and even if you don't feel it, you're being *insincere* for a good reason. To spare somebody else's feelings. I can't relate coz I have a few not-so-bright friends (maybe I'm even one of them) and stupidity doesn't bother me. Someone being mean does. Bitches I can't hang with. Peeps who just aren't up with everybody else's IQs, I can hang with and don't have a problem with. If this chick is mentally challenged, she's probably or might be used to getting treated differently and this little speech on her might be more devastating than you think. They're her dinners and her friends too, after all. So I disagree, Tower. Being honest isn't always the best policy and could really hurt somebody who's not doing anything more wrong than just being annoying.
Deanna, I would walk away from the situation and those dinners. Because this chick is so persistent, it sounds to me like she really likes you. You don't feel the same and it's driving you crazy and you've admitted to being cruel to her and correcting her, so are these dinners worth it? For her sake and yours? Maybe you could hook up with the other chick (the one that doesn't piss you off) on another night. I'd drop out of the dinners though. Good luck and I hope it works out for you!