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Originally Posted by Mari
Oh, I do know him, but I broke contact with him 12 years ago after my parents split up. Situation a bit different. But yeah, I thought for a while I was the only one in that situation too. I don't want to spend time with him now at all.. (long story but it really is for the better) but when he'd be on his dying bed? I guess I would go there because he is my father.
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I hear you. I bet this is more common than we think. I swear I'm not going to get too heavy this time (btw, I love that word -
heavy, it's so 70s) but it's confusing because you're supposed to love your dad or at least you're supposed to like him. If you don't, you feel guilty or conflicted. I think I'm learning now that it's ok not to like him or love him, but I can care what he's feeling and give whatever I can to him. It's not about keeping score. I wonder how many peeps don't know their moms?
