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Originally Posted by Lux
So unless you pay half for the professional supervisor it would have to be a private supervisor? Would you yourself get to pick who it be? It's seems more risky in the sense that it's not as threatening to them, like can they really reinforce those rules upon another adult unless they're in a professional position to? Perhaps, depending on the person I guess. Obviously you've thought all this through many times for your own case.
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to tell the truth, I dont know what would happen if I didnt pay...Im sure I would be sent to collections which would impact my credit score at the very least. As for the merits of professional vs private, Professional Supervisors are REQUIRED to follow the Judicial guidelines for visits, which is FAR safer for the child and keeps an eye on the visiting parent to make sure nothing shady occurs. Unfortunately, I cant afford the fees so I dont know what will happen. I dont have family I can call on to help me really, my oldest daughter is working two jobs and cant help, and the other one's life is too much of a mess tho she loves her brother and would do her best, she isnt savvy enuff about what the father is or is NOT allowed to do during visits.
Awhile back, the father's parents did the supervising (over my objections) and they allowed the father to give my son a shower, he wasnt even in "line of sight" which is a bare minimum requirement for supervision, so you can see the problems with having non professionals do the duty. I actually had to go to the DA's office to get an order preventing any further visits and then I had to go to court to have the Judge order these folks to do a better job. To make matters worse, the father's parents are in denial about their son, they refuse to accept that he is a molester therefore they werent vigilant enuff.
Just to give you an idea of how bad this is, ordinarily, the custodial parent doesnt have to pay any fees, but in MY case, the Judge who had allowed UNSUPERVISED visits, blew his STACK (I kid you not, my daughter heard the Judge cussing and yelling all the way in the courtroom and he was in his CHAMBERS!) and because I showed him what a mistake he made, he punished me. Judges HATE HATE HATE to be shown they are wrong. you cant argue with them you cant sue them, they have ALL the power. and MY Judge used his power to punish me. As the parent, I am duty bound to protect, I HAD to call attention to the abuse. So, I pay the price.
So, yes, I do my best to advocate for law change, I wish there was a way to make Judges more accountable....I see the ABA has created a newer, more flexible Judicial evaluation system which may more effectively hold Judges' feet to the fire.... I sure hope so anyway
